How can you expect healthy grown up men and women to abstain from sex when they are single?

Religions keep demading the impossible from single, healthy men and women. why is that?

Public Comments

1. Really. And if you do not develop any self control before you are married, how will you avoid being unfaithful to your partner when they stop being so sexually desirable? Do you give in to every other base instinct you have?
2. Many Many Many single People abstain from sex. Therefore: NOT IMPOSSIBLE
3. Actually, I did. I had sex only after I am married to my wife. I am an atheist :P.
4. it's not out of the question it's just not for everybody. This is america don't we have freedom of choice her? Why should some one be expected to adhere to some one else's ethics. If you want to have sex with some one you can, therefore you should have the right to protect yourself. Religion and health shouldn't mix in fact religion shoulnd't mix with a lot of things. Maybe it's just an archaic old habit that humanity would be better off dropping. All it has ever caused it disagreement and war. How many wars have been fought in the name of "god".
5. wow you need to work on your self control then miss
6. In most chrisitian religions it is believed that the priest or preacher of that faith is closer to god because his mind is cleansed of impurities. when u abstain from anything the body wants whether it be food or sex, u can meditate, clear ur mind, look at things from a different perspective. u appear stronger-willed, more emotionally tough, & then when u finally do eat or sleep w/ someone, is it not the best u have ever had? in all truth religion mostly wants u to have sex when ur married & ready to have kids so u dont "spill ur seed." i look at it is when ur denying urself the things u want or need & u learn to breath using ur stomach, not ur chest & meditate & reflect on life, ur supposed to become one w/ nature, improve the mind. "to strengthen the body and not the mind is to build a temple on shifting sand." as corny as it sounds, absense or abstinence as it were (haha) really does make the heart grow fonder. a christian wants sex w/ purpose, not sex for recreation & when u have sex w/ someone who isnt ur husband or wife ur expected to wear a condom & the church sees that as killing the seed. they're trying to cover / control everything by saying "u should only have sex when ur married & u should only get married when ur ready to have kids & ur only ready to have kids when ur faith is strong in god & ur financially stable enough to support a family." when u break it down, as controlling as it all is doesnt it also seem somewhat ideal to be married w/ the 1st person u slept w/ & only have kids when u can support them? religious or not, i think some can get behind that message.
7. I haven't had sex since I split with my childs father (we were together for 10 years and I have been single for 4 years) I don't know if I will abstain until I'm married but certainly until I meet someone who is very special and I intend to marry. So it's not impossible.
8. When most of these religious rules were set up, females were often married off when they were very young. Therefore single women were not a very common phenomenon. The problem is that people are trying to follow religious laws that have no hope of being successfully followed in most modern developed countries where women are no longer treated as property. The solution: People either need to move to a 3rd world country where girls are still married off at the age of 13, or they need to stop trying to follow outdated rules of behavior that are completely obsolete and unattainable in our modern world.
9. it is because following bible standards is the best counsel we can follow. sex before marriage led to the collapse if the roman empire. it has led to sexually transmitted diseases, broken homes, baby mama dramas, paternity tests, children born to children. the family have suffered. strong families makes strong societies. there are very limited strong cultures today. if tv and movies did not glorify non committal sex then it could possibly be easier to abstain until marriage. if people applied the bible wholeheartedly in their lives this could be accomplished. we love sex but we are not animals that do not have consciences to make informed decisions about our bodies and life. give your prospective marriage mate the best gift of all- your virginity
10. Religions want you to get married first and then have sex. That way when the woman has children they can be cared for instead of aborting them. Also being married mitigates sex by having sex with the same person for the rest of your life. That reduces desire and frees consciousness from being attached to your body and the material universe so you can transcend toward knowing God, which is the goal of life.
11. Another interesting reason for girls to not have sex until they are married, which my Pastor recently pointed out, is to make sure the guy wants you for YOU, not for sexual fulfilling. If you get into some relationship and you are giving the guy whatever he wants, how do you know he doesn't just stay with you for the sex? I had never thought about it that way before.
12. I wouldn't want to. Sex is natural and good.