Really Lonely After High School?

Im finished school, I have no friends at work, I don't have time to take any extra college courses, I go to the gym, I walk my dog. I hate online dating sites - They all just want money. Im not even sure im comfortable using them, and on top of that free sites like Craigslist seem to only be for people who want to have sex with strangers... I don't have time to volunteer anywhere - i work 60 hours a week. So... How can i make friends, or find a new girlfriend if none of the above are available to me? Im a decent looking guy, why the hell am i so alone. Seriously? Im new at this, but ... how do people find love? get married? start families? meet friends? Nobody else seems to have a problem with this, but im working my *** off, and even on my spare time i can't seem to figure it out... Its maddening, and i don't even want to get up in the morning anymore because im so by myself all the time.. On weekends i just sleep all the time because i know i have nobody to see. My old friends are NOT interested in seeing me anymore - even if they did live in the same state as i do. I want to get married. I want to build a life with somebody. All the girls I have met are so interested in drinking themselves to death it makes me sick. Nobody I meet is serious about life. Its just a big game... Party, Party, Party, I don't want to do drugs,and get drunk... I want to advance in my life. I hate clubs, I hate bars... I hate ditsy women. If anyone has any useful advice i would be ever so great full.

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1. When I finished high school, I had to move 350 miles away from home to search for a job. Even then, it took about 9 months. I was lonely as he$$ and very depressed. My sister lived in the city I moved to, and although 8 years older than me - she set me up with some of her female friends who were going thru divorces. THAT WAS A BIG MISTAKE - they really SCREWED WITH MY HEAD. To met someone (anyone) interesting, I tried church, night classes, volunteering - and NOTHING worked. Tried dating someone from work - and that really SUCKED - cause she would come into work and tell our co-workers everything we did. Swore I would never date anyone I was working with. A difficult promise to keep, but it may have prevented some problems. Didn't like the bars. And didn't like taking someone out on a 1st date and being told to drop my pants. I finally just stopped dating for several years. And didn't really have any friends to hang out with. Finally switched jobs and there was immense pressure to go drinking with the co-workers. I'm not proud to admit, but I got good at drinking. We went out one night and I met someone and it was an instant connection - within 3 weeks we were talking marriage. And 12 months later we did. Been married 24+ years. And we stopped going to the bars. Most people don't have a problem in going out drinking and PARTY! PARTY! because whoever they meet - doesn't mean anything to them. In your case, because you want to care about that person you are looking for the right person. And it may take a long time to find the "right person" for your life. Sounds like, right now you are depresssed and frustrated cause you have not found the "right person". So when you do have time on the weekends, you lay around and sleep. And then get more depressed cause you didn't find the "right person". The only way to meet people is to be where they are. So you do need to get up, and get out. Try joining a civic group, church, or some type of association (SEE THE LINK BELOW). Another thing, I didn't meet my wife until I was mature enough to take advantage of the opportunity to get married. When we did she had been married 8 years, had 2 kids, and then divorced for 8 years. I went from never having a roommate, to being the (mean old) step-father of 2 teenagers (just starting to drive & drink). Whew! I think part of the reason it took me so long to find somone is that I was sending out vibes that I was looking for the "right person" not "a person" to hang out with. And some females did not want to commit to that type of relationship. It seems like a lot of people get hurt emotionally in their teens/early 20's, and it takes them a while (years) to get to the point they are willing to gamble on trusting anyone else.