Should i be angry at this situation... MIL from hell. Advice needed?

I have to give you a brief background first... sorry it might be long. My boyfriend and i (both 21yrs old) have been together nearly 3 years. We have had a lot of ups and downs throughout that time. We recently broke up for a few months and got back together. The reason we broke up was because of his parents but mainly his mother. She has never liked me and even though she is 50yrs old, she still acts like a child. When my boyfriend and i started dating, he was still living at home and his mother did everything for him from making his bed, lunch, dinner, cleaning up his room, washing his clothes, etc. She never made him do anything which to me is wrong. I had been living by myself and supporting myself since i was 17yrs old as that is the way my family raised me. I have always been very independent. I did my own thing and have never worried about what people think about it. Which i believe is part of the reason why she dislikes me because i am pretty much the complete opposite to her. I have known him since we were 8 yrs old so his family knew who i was. His mother (as soon as she heard he took me to the movies) told him never to go out with a Howard Slut (the town we were from) and if he did he has to move out. Well he moved out to a friends house and i think that is when she really started hating me. She was always so sweet to my face and couldnt have been kinder but she bad mouthed me behind my back every chance she could get over the years and when i confronted her she lied and acted like i was the one to blame. She invited me over for a cuppa and then told me i deserve better and to get rid of her son and blah blah blah and then 2 seconds later she would be telling him the exact same thing about me. We moved in together and she did everything she could to make us fight. She would just pop over and then start her shit until it got to much for me and i told him to move back there. When i found out i was pregnant (which i lost) she told me that girls my age only get pregnant to trap the man and that there is no excuse for it because of the birth controls on the market these days (which i would like to add that i had the implant in my arm) and i have to get an abortion. She has tried so many years and so many ways to break us up and even tried organising a date with another chick for him while we were together. I have always been so nice to her (even though i feel like punching her) and she has just kept trying her hardest to destroy our relationship. When he moved home she banned me from going to visit him and told me i was never welcomed anywhere near there which never bothered me because i would rather never to see them. When we decided to give it another go at living together i told him straight out she was not to come near our house and she was not ever welcomed into my home. Of course she did not listen, come over told me i needed to learn how to clean better and blah blah blah so i broke up with him and he moved home again. He tried to get back with again but i told him i was not dating him or his mother until he decided to be a man and stant on his own 2 feet. When his mother found out he had spoken to me, she kicked him out again!!!! So he moved to a friends place. He has been living there for a month or so and been looking after himself (which i was so glad about) so i said i will give it one more go and that was it. If his mother started her shit then i will never have anything to do with any of them. Well he lost his job due to the company going bust and since there is hardly any work around because of the money problems in Australia. I have been helping him out but i could not offer him my house to move into because i work away and live in a camp 3 weeks out of 4 so i have no got a house for him. Where he lives he pays no rent, free internet use, everything free he just has to pay for his fuel and food. Which is not that much at all but i got a text today saying he is moving back to his parents house because at least it is free and his parents will pay for everything for him and he does not have to stress. Then he said that his mother does not have a problem with him and said i was welcomed to come visit! Now is it wrong of me to be pissed off about this? I told him he needed to be independent but when times get tough he runs back to mummy. I am fuming about this whole situation and thinks i should just cut all ties to him and his mummy and be happy i never have to see these children again. What would you do Please help Yes i work and earn over $2500 a week working in a office! So yes i am independent and i do not need my mummy to do shit for me. And it is in this section because i get usually get mature answers beside some dick heads

Public Comments

1. If you want anyone to answer this..just state the fact..we can read the small print..this will not work..I'll be looken for ya..
2. this is too long put bullet points...
3. OH MY GOSH! Same situation here. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 3 years too, we have baby together (which sry about your lost) our son is 1 month old and his mother told me when I was pregnant I was just doing it to trap him to. Well let me tell you something he sure wasn't a good one to trap considering his mother is a nut case from hell!!!! But i love him and thats what matters. I told him that if we were going to have a relationship it was just going to be "US" and not his mother. So this is what I told him would have to happen and he agreed. so you need to make a list just like I did of what you will tolerate and what you won't tolerate...always metion in your note that you love him and that you've been together for a long time and its stupid to call it quits over someone esle!! If he loves you he will accept the things that you accept and won't accept the things you don't. Make a list girl and tell him what u expect his mother not to do, and what you expect of him. IF he loves you he will do it =) Good Luck & Hang in there I added you to my contacts cuz we are kinda in the same boat and my MIL is from hell as well =) That way you can help me on my ?'s and I can help you on yours!! Keep me updated and let me know how things go!! I have email on my page =)
4. YOU ARE IN THE WRONG SECTION YOU ARE BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND AND IF I WERE HIM I WOULD LEAVE YOU CAUSE YER OUT TO MAKE HIM LOOK THE BAD GUY AND HE MAY BE WRONG AND HE MAY BE RIGHT BUT YOU ARE PLAYING THE VICTOM AND YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND ASK HIM THE LONG QUESTION YOU TYPED ABOVE HE IS VERY SMART ARE YOU WORKING IF NOT SHUT UP HE SOUNDS MORE INDEPENDENT THAN YOU ARE GOD I HATE MOST WOMEN ARE THEIR ANY REAL WOMEN ANYMORE!!!!!
5. Unless he can cut the umbilical cord (which he has made it clear he cannot) you two will only have a miserable future together. I wouldn't just blame his mom, yes she is freakin psycho (my first boyfriends mom was like this), but he is the one who allows her to behave in these ways, and to treat you the way that she does. I would leave it. It will be awhile before he learns that she has no business in his relationships and puts his foot down- should he ever accomplish either. He also has some growing up to do if he's not even man enough to support himself, even in hard times there is always a way- you just have to care to work it out instead of running home to mommy to hide under her skirt and begin nursing again
6. MY hubby's momma is also a MIL from hell. Hubby has got her in check & we then moved a couple of hours away. I feel for ya but this man seems to be too much of a mommas boy. Maybe it's just time to move on and find a man that is not so attached to momma and a MIL that likes you. Good luck to you. Mary in Camden, MI USA
7. You are going to be stuck on this merry-go-round. If he can't firmly get out and stand up for you now, he NEVER will. If you get married, he'll bow to her wishes and it won't be about you. It'll be about the things she wants. You'll be miserable. If you have children, she'll put her nose all over it. You'll be constantly fighting her for everything there and she will try to tell you how to raise them. She will make it a nightmare. If he can't stand for you on the small issues, he won't on the big issues and you'll be very unhappy. He either has to stand up to her or you have to get off the ride. You deserve better than a boy who refuses to become a man. A real man would see his priorities here, but your guy is acting like a spoiled child. I think you know the score, it just hurts to let go. But once you move on it will get better, because there are real men out there.
8. Well if you plan on opening a daycare and you already have two children other than that loose the little one and find a man.