NEED ADVICE about ONLINE(rockstar) Dating! PLEASE?
I met someone online (twitter) and we started chatting back and forth and we developed a lil relationship of going back and forth- slightly flirtatious. This went on for about 2 weeks...he lives in LA and I live in NY. It turned out we were going to the same event in NYC where he was going for a few days-( he has a very high profile job as a musican and was in town to receive an award) ...we decided to meet there. We saw each other there and we hung out the whole night pretty much and ended it with a hug as we were both with our best frinds too that night. We continue to talk online...and I told him that I want to see him again and that i want to get to know him better and he said that he is sure that we will... He is very busy and i think a little reluctant to open up as his a rockstar and probably has women throwing at him all of the time... I want to communicate how i feel about him (which is that I like him ALOT) with out scaring him away...he seems to like me too! I'm not a groupie...i didnt even know who his band was when we met...I just don't know how to persue a man like this...esp. via the internet and esp. because we are bicoastal! I felt a big connection...please give me advice as to how to let him know I like him without coming across pushy or crazy...thank yoU!!!
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- you may not know who he was then, but you do now. Anything you do will come off, "groupie" ish. You'll have to let him initiate, and it will be up to him to open up to you or not. All you can do is reciprocate
- I would suggest NEVER dating a musician. While I never dated anyone incredbily recognized, I always (still do but I swear to God I am sweating off it it), dated musicians and let's be honest, it can be the most frustrating experience in the world. Most often then not (as you stated), they are incredibly busy and sadly, you are most likely never going to be a top priority. This means plans and promises will be broken. While they might be the most faithful guy in the world, jealousy is going to come into play as well. As much as you can say you are not a jealous person (as I like to think I'm not), when your guy is constantly surrounded by girls, it gets really really old really fast. Plus, look where you guys live. That is sooooo long distance and will just complicate things. wow, that was pessimisitc. Alright, if you really feel like you have a connection with this guy, then don't let the conversation stop. You might have to wait a long time before anything you want will happen, Remember, he is focusing on his music and it is really hard to establish a real connctiion over the internet. See if he wants some more meetings with you, I'm sure he'll let you know. And make sure you are not just his piece of ass when he is in town. sadly, the ball is in his court. You gotta wait for his moves and play the right ones back.
