Hello guys I need your advice on online dating?

I met this one guy online and we started texting each other continuously non stop for a couple of day then that lead to us going out on a date. We met and seemed to hit it off...instant chemistry...we were both very affectionate the entire night....great conversation...it was very natural! He kept sweetly kissing me, hugging me, holding my hand etc...mostly all instigated by him. So the next day I do the dreaded thing and texted him....I thanked him and said I would like to do it again and he said we would. Well I ended up inviting him to a get together I was having that night but he already had plans....well the next night I invited him to an Oscar party...he asked when (he had no clue when the oscars even where) but when I told him he then said he had plans. I haven't called or texted at all today and neither has he. Do you think I ruined things by calling him the next day? I can usually sense when there is no chemistry or when things aren't going well and that wasn't at ALL the case on the date...I could kick myself for contacting him the next day!!!!! Any advice will be apreciated!!! Thanks guys

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1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEEjWluREj8 this might help
2. online dating.. not a good idea
3. Online desperate people date online.
4. Send good pictures.
5. i doubt you did anything by texting him the next day! but, it does sound like you should give it some time. youre expecting too much right now. just wait untill he contacts you.
6. its just a little spat ur live trust me ur be ok
7. lolololololol why don't you get a real boyfriend and stop wastingg our time on here trying to get attentionand making up fake boyfriends!!!!!!!!!!
8. Give him a week and make plans ahead of time then call him the day of it and f he says he is suddenly busy he is not interested...
9. what was wrong with texting the next day? i would actually think its bad to not text or call the next day. Maybe don't pay attention to the rules so much. But yeah wait till he texts you don't do it anymore.
10. He doesn't know what the oscars are? Wow he's a keeper
11. did you think: maybe he really does have plans..
12. that's dangerous, do not meet with strangers especially by yourself, many rape cases happen this way
13. I guess it's possible he was annoyed by you contacting him the next day, but he could also just have had plans. wait another day to text him. then, even if he doesn't contact you, text him on wednesday and just say hi.
14. I don't really think talking to him the next day should be a problem, maybe he's really just busy or something. You could try just asking him if he's interested in you still. Communication is almost always the way to go ;)
15. Well, if you had "instant" chemistry then it was most likely infatuation, which may have worn off for him. Love and deep connections take time, not just a few days.
16. I am not sure what you let him do when you said "we were both very affectionate the entire night". Maybe you might want to be less affectionate to a stranger until you know his true intentions and his plans. There is nothing wrong that you contacted him the following day, but you can consider letting the man do the role of a man. Otherwise you might fall into being controlling.
17. Ugggh, that sux! Why are men like that :( I don't think there's anything wrong with you contacting him the next day as long as you didn't come across as needy or pushy or anything. I think guys still stick to the same rule they always have, that they can't contact a girl the next day or even the next week even when the date is good. Give it a few days and text or call again
18. wait till he calls you
19. could rlly just be busy its likely maybe ask him is he trying to aviod u
20. actually you did make a mistake make him wait for a while and let him text you if he doesnt move on
21. he probably is just legitimately busy. be chill, I'm sure he doesn't care. try mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090223201502AAFhOok
22. I wouldn't think that you calling him the next day had anything to do with it. Maybe he wasn't ready to meet your friends yet because ya'll only had one date. Maybe he wants to be able to spend more time with you alone first.
23. I think you should stop calling or texting him, for he already gets what he wants from you, so he will hide from you, he considered that night as other ordinary night, he must had played the same game too otten, and there is no relationship between you and him, it's just a one night stand, so why waste time on this kind of guy?
24. Maybe he's nervous to meet your friends because he's embarrassed that you guys met online. Or he really was busy and just couldn't do it. Stranger things have happened.
25. If you sensed that the chem was right then you didn't do anything wrong. He probably had those plans way before you invited him (at the last minute).
26. NO ONLINE DATING!
27. just call him or txt him. He will txt or call back. I promise
28. try personal dating!!!
29. You are seeming to come on a little strong, but that may not be such bad thing. He may just dislike award shows as much as I do? He may be worried that it will turn into one of those dating things where his social life just disappears and is replaced by yours. Give him a text and find out if he wants to go out again, otherwise you won't know.
30. No, you didn't ruin anything! He obviously likes you, he'll message you back. Just wait; and be patient. He'll come. :)
31. If i were you, i would keep my distance for a while... the balls in his court. If he is really into you, and if he really did have a good time with you, then he WILL contact you again. Online dating can be good, but it can also lead to heartbreaks. So, live your life as if nothing happened...if its meant to be, then its HIS move ;-)
32. ok first im not a man but i have done the online dateing thing i met my man on myspace and 2 years later were together and haven a child but to say this maybe its really nothing tex him or just give him a call and just really talk to him about the problem but i put it like call him if he doesnt answer text him if he doesnt answer then leave it alone
33. it seems to me that you just gave him everything he wanted from the first time you guys met. not trying to sound me or anything but im frank with you. you made everything easy for him. guys dont like girls that give everything she's got from the first night. you need to get him do work hard to get to you and even then dont give everything you've got. you have to get they guy to like you for your personallity and your respect for yourself. by giving up everything for him you've given him no reason to come back and every reason not to. im a guy and im just telling you the reality of a guys point of view
34. Some guys get put off when a girl is the one to call right away, especially 2 nights in a row. It is sad, but they need to feel like they have to catch you. Don't call him or text him again and see if he comes around, if not, well obviously it wasn't meant to be whether you called him first or not. You texting him first shouldn't have pushed him away that fast (unless you were texting him multiple times a day) if it did, then he just isn't really that into you and isn't ready for a relationship. Keep your head up there are a ton of guys out there!!