Ladies, I need your advice - dating question?
I've just joined this internet dating site. This girl sent me a wink. I sent her back one and told her on looking at her profile, that we had a bit in common. I also asked her what she thought was the ideal first date for her. Anyway, she replied back saying that she also thought we had a lot in common. In answering my question about her ideal first date - she said that she liked first dates which involved meeting up for a casual coffee or drinks, in a relaxed atmosphere. She then asked me what I thought? Now, I'm not sure what would be the best way to respond to this. I don't want to put pressure on her to meet me so soon in the peice. I want her to feel comfortable with me before I ask her out. How would you best answer her question?
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- You asked her what she likes to do for a first date, and she responded. That doesn't mean she wants a date now! Just tell her this "Thats cool, I would have said the same thing. Do you have any favorite places you like to go for drinks?" Just keep the convo going, asking questions..before you guys decide on a date.
- I'd reply with "coffee or drinks sounds fine. I like to keep it casual, too." You could add "I'm always open to meeting new friends and see what happens from there" -- or not
- Don't overthink this. Just tell her the kinds of things you like to do on first dates. And if she asks to meet, tell her you'd like to get to know her a bit online first and then maybe talk on the phone at some point before you meet. I know some people like to meet right away but it doesn't seem like she's necessarily saying that. If you are new to the online dating thing, just know that people feel free to write lots of people at a time and you would do yourself a favor by doing the same. Lots of times, people will just stop writing out of the blue and if you get hung up on one person early on, it can hurt more than it needs to. Rejection online is part of the game. I just want you to know this because you are putting a lot of importance on a simple email and I'd hate for you to read into it and maybe get hurt in the process. Best wishes to you and I hope you meet a great lady!
