WOMEN ONLY!! GUY NEEDS DATING ADVICE....?

I have been dating this girl for 9 months. Here is how we started. She used to date my good friend for 3 years and then when he became a cop she started cheating on him with me. They broke up and stayed in contact but she has been with me since. Well we have broken up a lot the past 9 months but she is with me. Now the guy moved away to a city 8 hours away and she still cries over him pondering the what if? Pondering why it didnt work between them. My question to the all the women out there is this: Is this normal? Should I give her more time and be more understanding? I mean I on one hand can understand that she was with the guy for three years so it may take time to get over him and they were good friends afterward. But on the other hand, why cant she just get over him and if she wants to be with me, then why is she crying? Please help me out!

Public Comments

1. I'm going to be honest with you if she's crying over an ex... then she probably has feelings for him still... just sit her down and ask her to be honest and see if she still does.
2. Just let her go. She is obviously not ready for a relationship.
3. You gotta move on. Think of it this way, if they'll cheat WITH you, they can/will cheat ON you. Not all girls are like this, find better. Good luck
4. Dude, you are in the wrong as much as she is. So they dated for 3 years. He's your good friend. And she cheats on him for you. Most likely she liked him more then you, she just needed some attention. And now he's gone and she really liked him. How could you even dare do that to your friend, or knowing she's also with another guy, whether you know him or not still.
5. wow thats a really messed up situation. your not a good friend whatsoever so dont call him your good friend. sorry to be mean but its true. you got the girl in a really weird situation. she immediately goes from one guy to another. she obviously still has feelings for him. once a cheater always a cheater... are you sure she hasn't gone back to him on the times you broke up or got in fights? he probably got sick of her bullcrap but she wants the best of both worlds.. you and him. you should let her go and see who she picks. if she comes to you then hey thats the answer she needs to cut off all contact with the other guy and cut out the crying crap and be with you. if she wants the other guy she will go visit him.. maybe not move but either she will go see him or he will come see her. then you will know. but really she never had time to decide she wanted and because you both lived in the same area she thought she had all the time in the world to choose because im sure the other guy would have taken her back .. am i right?