Dating men with kids?
I am dating a divorced man who has young kids, he has them almost every weekend (vs. standard every other weekend). Not too long ago, I dated another divorced man, same situation, every weekend he had his kids. I understand they want to see their kids every chance they get, but should there be some balance? I don't have kids, so I don't know. I do believe the ex-wives have it better. They have their kids during the week, and on weekends they are free to date, and develop new relationships. Not surprisingly, in both cases, ex-wives were happily remarried. Sometimes I wish he had custody - he would have his kids during the week and have some weekends free for me. Any advice, does he need to balance better or do I just need to assess whether I can handle the limited time we have?
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- He should make time, but you also have to accept the fact that he will still want to see his kids...besides I'm guessing you knew he had kids fairly early on in the relationship so...I guess it's about deciding if you care for each other enough to make time for each other around work and the kids. Talk to him about it.
- you need to assess if you can handle it i mean he has his kids on the week end y dont u all go out some where an be involved in his life when he has them
- Kids absolutely and totally come first. They cannot get enough attention and affection from their parents.
- my x husband has a relationship that he has had for the past 10 years. She is good with my kids and spends time with them as much as he does. That is how it should be.... please read on well, I know I am the technical x-wife with the dad having visitation.. If you really really like this guy and see it going somewhere then spending time with him and his kids would not be a problem. I know that more than anything you want your personal time with him. See if you and him can make a mid week date one evening after work. Honestly and I hope you don't get mad but if you think that you need all of his attention during the few precious days he gets to see his kids you need to move on and find a partner that is not a father. Parenting is stressful and needs 100% of his attention. If it is to much for you to share him with his kids on their time with dad then he should rethink being your partner.
