will i be single forever?? never had a girlfriend before!! =( advice?
i'm 23 and never had a girlfriend before! i have had a few dates but they have never worked out. not had anything else other than that! i am confident socially, and find it easy to talk to women, i just never know what point i should make a move, or what signs to look for if they do like me! i know i would treat her with respect and stuff, and i wouldn't wanna screw her over like other bad boys, but all the time i see 'nice guys' who have found girlfriends! i'm no pushover, and ive learnt from a lot of mistakes and rejections, but i still dunno what i'm doing wrong! ive tried so many ways and found nothing. speed and online dating, thru friends, clubs, bars, work, volunteering. u name it, ive tried it! i have to say, i have tourettes, but i'm always scared to tell girls this, as they make fun of it and not wanna date me! =/ i honestly do try not to worry, but i see happy couples all the time, which makes it worse! i really wanna be as happy as the other couples, and i dunno why girls just don't want me! even my mates i didn't think would find someone for a while have found someone now =/ i always wanted to save my first time for someone i love and make it special, but will it even be worth it after such a long wait? is there really someone special out there for me? or will i be alone forever? =(
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- Man don't worry! My dad found my mum when he was like 29, and he always says that every person will eventually find a girlfriend or boyfriend. Just look harder :) Goodluck!
- you'll be fine. maybe when you're 40, that might be a problem. Still young so explore your options
- dude use the tourettes as a way to meet chicks! most girls have never probably even met a guy who has it, and you could use it to your advantage. its not like u have tendencies to molest children, that would scare a girl away. if she really likes you, she'll accept you for who you are. but ive never really had a problem meeting girls. im currently in a relationship, and me and her have been dating for 2 years now. all i can say is, try harder, and if nothing happens, escort service?
- Self confidence is the key. Maybe try to work out more or change your hair or something. I know it sounds corny, but you have to trust me on this: it's all about self esteem. No girl wants a guy that is sad and lonely and always depressed, they want someone that will be happy and make her feel better about herself. I have lots of nervous twitches and I get very self conscious around women, I find that a small bit of alcohol works wonders on getting rid of my nervous habits and anxiety. And remember, you're YOUNG! Life's no rush. Clint Eastwood is 78 and starred, directed, and produced one of my current favorite movies, Gran Torino :)
- Im sorry to hear that you have tourettes, i hope its not too hard to handle. I hope there is somebody other there for everyone cause i thought i found somebody but it turned out to be a nut job. So like you im waitting for mr right and i hope to meet him in the future. ( mrs right) for you will be come around and she will love you for who yiou are and not want to change you
- Neither did I ever had a woman. Just work on becoming a rich jerk..I mean filthy rich, that'd bring hordes of them towards you.
- There is more to life then finding someone. Your probably looking to hard. Get involved with something else. Stop clubbing (worse place to meet someone) and do something a bit more worth while. I promise you that when you stop looking you will be surprised.
- If you think that you could socially be acceptable then I don't see there's a problem from you either. Just tell yourself that you wants to marry before you go 30, then this might do the trick. Finally, if you're having a stable income and can support a family then I'm sure you can even find your soul mate IN HERE!!
- I believe in my heart there is someone for everyone ,but fretting and worrying about it only makes things harder so step out there with a positive attitude and you will find your options getting better..as far as tourettes well people are ..not always understanding about ANYTHING so understanding this will make you less sensitive to responses that might otherwise hurt you.So step out with a smile and put your hard hat on for the ignorant.and you will find people gravitating toward you men and women PEOPLE NEED A HAPPY PLACE TO BE.sooo BE THAT PLACE.
- you WILL find someone eventually, especially if you are actually trying hard to find someone, then you are doing the right thing. whats tourettes?
- ur probably ooglayyyyyyyy
- Specially if you live in the USA, if you are no so good looking try to earn as much money as you can and women will fly over you hoping for marriage. Also stop being so much "The nice guy", most women love trash and harsh treatment. If you are too nice they do not respect you. It's dumb but is what my experience shows. Another thing, let your national pride by the side and try some foreign ladies as partners. I consider american women with few exceptions as the worst in the world. (Also by experience). Good luck.
- You seem to me a very nice guy. the kind that every women would like to have. I'm saying this thinking about your character and probably your knowledge. however do not forget that human being get attracted first by how the other part look like. So, Make some improvements in your appearance and wardrobe. I'm sure that this improvements asocieted with your charisma and intelligence will bring the results you are hoping for
- of course u wont be alone 4 ever ur nt looking in the right places mate u have low self esteem ur proberbley saying to ur self am nt good enough for some of the woaman out there u got it rong it will come naturallet to u and stop worring about it because u have torrets its not a big deal bt whrn u find some 1 u be open and tell them or they will think ur ashamed of it we all have something rong with us good luck mate excuse spelling my grandson tugging at my arm
- Cheer up mate there is someone out there for you,just dont be scared to make that move!
- you h
