are you a Counsellor?

i need your advice . It's more than a year that I'm talking with a man thru internet and tel. He is a host for a program on TV in europe. from the first he told me that he had a g/f ,living with him, but after a while she went to the uk. they see each other every 5-7 weeks. he recently hid their visiting each other, but when i asked him about that, he never lied. he is very kind to me, and even seeks my advice when he wants to make a decision in his job. he consults me.besides he has 4 kids from his first marriage and he is divorced. i dont live in europe but he does. a couple of month ago i wanted to go to his country to visit my family, but it didnt become possible.and he always pursudes me to go there. One day I was so sad, due to a family row.he asked me if i could go to his country yet. I told : not yet. Then he emailed me and said he would try to come to my country .but he didnt mentioned because of me. Now , i'm going to his country, last week i told him that.He asked about the date of my trip, and mentioned that in the late january his g/f will go to visit him. I am now very upset.very sad. I think if i go there, i wont be free to see him anytime i want, and i think he prefers her to me. I know he has the right, but I'm so sad. I think of breaking up. I know this relationship will hurt me alot cause i love him. and i think he loves her, not me. To avoid depression, due to the future situation, i didnt email him back. Is it a right decision to stop talking to him? or what? please help me. thnx in advance we are both more than 35. I have watched him on tv. he is in germany. i live in turkey.

Public Comments

1. I wouldn't go to a different country to meet someone no way! You seen him on webcam and on the show to prove it is him? People like and are wacko online... No way let him come to your country? He has a girlfriend and you are going there? Why?? Find someone single in your own country.
2. his in uk this can really go on further can it no so I would suggest it.
3. I just asked my sister who is a councelor for relationships!, she said wait til' he talks to you! To see if he really likes you! Don't answer im if he says are you there! Ok!
4. You are stupid. You've never met him. Have better judgment!
5. This is going to hard for you to take but why would you involve yourself with someone who has a girlfriend. That is like taking a pill that you know will kill you but your doing it because it looks good, smells good, and taste good just because it has those three good qualities doesn't hide the fact the pill will still kill you.
6. Go to a professional counselor or therapist. You have emotional problems...so deal with them before you do something stupid that you will really regret! This "relationship" is not for real. Accept it!