are you a Counsellor?

i need your advice . It's more than a year that I'm talking with a man thru internet and tel. He is a host for a program on TV in europe. from the first he told me that he had a g/f ,living with him, but after a while she went to the uk. they see each other every 5-7 weeks. he recently hid their visiting each other, but when i asked him about that, he never lied. he is very kind to me, and even seeks my advice when he wants to make a decision in his job. he consults me.besides he has 4 kids from his first marriage and he is divorced. i dont live in europe but he does. a couple of month ago i wanted to go to his country to visit my family, but it didnt become possible.and he always pursudes me to go there. One day I was so sad, due to a family row.he asked me if i could go to his country yet. I told : not yet. Then he emailed me and said he would try to come to my country .but he didnt mentioned because of me. Now , i'm going to his country, last week i told him that.He asked about the date of my trip, and mentioned that in the late january his g/f will go to visit him. I am now very upset.very sad. I think if i go there, i wont be free to see him anytime i want, and i think he prefers her to me. I know he has the right, but I'm so sad. I think of breaking up. I know this relationship will hurt me alot cause i love him. and i think he loves her, not me. To avoid depression, due to the future situation, i didnt email him back. Is it a right decision to stop talking to him? or what? please help me. thnx in advance we are both more than 35.

Public Comments

1. No
2. I am not a counselor
3. Yes, you made right decision. He has to choose between two women. And you have to choose between being yourself or being the shadow of other. If he really has sentiment with you, I think he will be shocked by this contact intermittent and it's time for him to make thing clear. If not, you just forget him and build a new relationship for yourself.
4. it seems to me u r confused...u want to go 2 meet your family or him...make a decission...atleast be clear in ur mind u dont have 2 tell anyone...if u get 2 meet him gr8 if not than u know wat 2 do......may b once u meet him u dont hit off as gr8 u thought n would rather remain friends or perhaps u both meet n hit off...as of now just b like friends n dont expect anything...u cant pressurize him 2 love u or like u back...there r so many other people out there who r looking for companionship....
5. Yes I am a counselor. Also you asked about what to do in your situation. You know this man is involved with another woman. So why are you trying to become the third party in this relationship? If he really wanted you he would break up with the girlfriend. So if this is making you depressed then you should remove yourself from their lives and then find someone to be with who is faithful to you.