emergency, Very long story......I need advice?

I have a dad who is abusive, verbally abusive, hates rejection, and thinks he owns my mom. She has been married to him for almost 22 years and during that time it has been hell at home. He's cheated on her almost every year of that marriage, put his hands on all of us. He had a baby on her by another women, just done all types of things. He makes very, very good money but, none of us ever seen it. Our house has always been bare, we hardly had any clothes or had any entertainment. All we ever did was stay home and clean up after him. None of his outside family likes him but, despite all of this no one would speak up about it because, he's crazy and everyone is scared of him. He is an ex cop, who works in construction, and is also in the military who is also a minister in church. Because, of all of this everyone thinks he's such a GREAT guy He's very smart and athletic, he's an over-achieves in everything that he does. He tells them bad things about us and our mom to make people think she's a horrible wife and a cheat. The only thing is this is not true, it couldn't be since we're all locked up in the house with close tabs on everyone not allowed to go anywhere. A year ago he got called to Iraq and my mom decided to divorce him. It is the only way she could without him hurting her. They still have two younger kids so that is why he's able to keep in contact with him and can't break completely free. He's back from Iraq now and crazier then ever! She's got her own apartment and struggling to make it but, happier than ever. They're not completely divorced yet but, seperated so, she's been dating and found a guy who REALLY likes her and makes her so happy. My dad can not accept rejection and claims that no matter what they will always be married because, they took an oath under god. He's not going to let her go. He's been following her around and recently my siblings went to a friends house and my mom was with her boyfriend. During that time he broke into her house. Went through all her stuff and took my little sisters house key. He didn't steal anything, that's how we know it was him. Since, he's in the military she's scared he put some type of recorder or tracking devices in the home. On top of it all he followed her to her boyfriends house and left her a message saying, "I know what he looks like, where he lives and what car he drives. My dad also said, "he's lucky i'm a christian or i'd get him." I'm so scared he might hurt my family. I know my story is long and run-on but,it's because, i'm scared and need help. PLEASE, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? WHAT CAN SHE DO TO BE SAFE? She's making a report to the police but, we don't want to anger him more if he's not gonna go to jail because, then he really might hurt her.

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1. Restraining order. Your mom needs to take him to court to petition for a divorce. This can be fought if he refuses to sign the papers peacefully. If she has the restraining/protective order placed against him, he will not be allowed to enter the home/apartment legally, and if he does this, he can be arrested. She also needs to get all of the kids on a protective order from him as well so that he can not come to their schools or anywhere they are either. Good luck.
2. Don't be so afraid to tell anybody of these problems. If you don't say anything, nobody can help. You have to tell your local authorities of all this, and I mean ALL of this, and they will do the best they can to help him. Obviously, he'd be kicked out of the military so he can't fight anymore. They'd get him mental help and see what his problem is. I know you say that everyone thinks he's such a great guy, but not everyone will think that. Let's say that you & your mother are in court against this guy (for any reason whatsoever), they're most likely gonna listen to you. Idk where you live, but in my part of the United States, the local authorities and courts ALWAYS listen & believe the minors more than the adults, so if you were to tell them, they'd believe you over anything your father has to say. I am aware that you are worried that he will hurt your family & relatives, but if you don't get him help, he's more likely to hurt them than if he did get help. Overall, you must tell somebody: Your local authorities, a trusted adult, pretty much anyone that can help, because if your father really is crazy, you never know what he's gonna do, so you have to get him help before it's too late.
3. These guys are right, get a restraining order. Also, if civilian police officers arrested him and he had to go to court, he would also have to face a military court and the sentence that the Military gives him will be added to what the civilian judge gave him.