Long Story and I need advice?

I have a dad who is abusive, verbally abusive, hates rejection, and thinks he owns my mom. She has been married to him for almost 22 years and during that time it has been hell at home. He's cheated on her almost every year of that marriage, put his hands on all of us. He had a baby on her by another women, just done all types of things. He makes very, very good money but, none of us ever seen it. Our house has always been bare, we hardly had any clothes or had any entertainment. All we ever did was stay home and clean up after him. None of his outside family likes him but, despite all of this no one would speak up about it because, he's crazy and everyone is scared of him. He is an ex cop, who works in construction, and is also in the military who is also a minister in church. Because, of all of this everyone thinks he's such a GREAT guy He's very smart and athletic, he's an over-achieves in everything that he does. He tells them bad things about us and our mom to make people think she's a horrible wife and a cheat. The only thing is this is not true, it couldn't be since we're all locked up in the house with close tabs on everyone not allowed to go anywhere. A year ago he got called to Iraq and my mom decided to divorce him. It is the only way she could without him hurting her. They still have two younger kids so that is why he's able to keep in contact with him and can't break completely free. He's back from Iraq now and crazier then ever! She's got her own apartment and struggling to make it but, happier than ever. They're not completely divorced yet but, seperated so, she's been dating and found a guy who REALLY likes her and makes her so happy. My dad can not accept rejection and claims that no matter what they will always be married because, they took an oath under god. He's not going to let her go. He's been following her around and recently my siblings went to a friends house and my mom was with her boyfriend. During that time he broke into her house. Went through all her stuff and took my little sisters house key. He didn't steal anything, that's how we know it was him. Since, he's in the military she's scared he put some type of recorder or tracking devices in the home. On top of it all he followed her to her boyfriends house and left her a message saying, "I know what he looks like, where he lives and what car he drives. My dad also said, "he's lucky i'm a christian or i'd get him." I'm so scared he might hurt my family. I know my story is long and run-on but,it's because, i'm scared and need help. PLEASE, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? WHAT CAN SHE DO TO BE SAFE? She's making a report to the police but, we don't want to anger him more if he's not gonna go to jail because, then he really might hurt her.

Public Comments

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2. Be prepared for a violent conflict. He seems to be weak because he did use violence in the case of the boyfriend. Most really mean people do not tell you what they would have done. They just do it. I wonder if your dad is really the Terminator he portrays himself to be.
3. restraining order.
4. dang thats messed up. She needs to do something as quick as possible becuase he sounds like a threat to you all. first of all she should get a restraining order on him from being at her apartment, he sounds like one of those possesive crazy man.
5. Well, you've done everything you have to at the moment. This kind of guy is a blow hard. There are several contradictions in his character, so, don't worry about the guy. If you feel he has bugged your house, then to tell you the truth, I would have fun with that, making remarks loudly about his manhood, his sexual preference and his being a hypocrite. lol! Just keep telling your Mom that you are proud of her. I think what would help her most now would hurt her financially later. And that is she should go get a few classes in martial arts. Preferably Kenpo. This will give her some much needed self esteem.