Dating mom with a teen who thinks the man she is talking with is too old needs advice?

but have since gotten to know him a little bit better. He is planning a visit to my area the first weekend in August. Now the problem is my son thinks he is too old for me. He is 14 yrs my senior which I do not have a problem with (I love older men). I have told my son that if this person makes me happy, then his age shouldnt matter, but my happiness does. This is not the first date i have been on, but this is the second man that i have talked about extensively - I just dont want this to become a bigger problem betweemn my son and I. My sons point is that he hasnt lived as long as the age difference between the Tennessee man and myself and that he is old. I don't know what else to tell him. Time will tell if the relationship will go anyhwere. What else can I tell my son? I need to add since it seems that some are under the impression that I am confiding to my son, I am not, but he does hear conversations that do take place. This does affect him to an extent, especially if things work out between this man and myself. I don't give my son details, but he does know if I am going on a date. I believe that I am a responsible parent and I am trying to be the best example that I can be to him.

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1. tell your son you are grown
2. Tell your son that you appreciate his concern but that a) it's none of his business and b) age becomes a much lesser issue at a certain point in life. Your son is at that age where he thinks he knows a lot more then he does. Do not let him dictate your personal life. It shouldn't even be a topic of discussion. Remember you are his mother not his buddy. As tempting as that is when you are a single parent. I feel you, I am a single mother as well, but I will be damned if my daughter (who certainly is a babe in the woods) is going to tell me about who I can and can't date. If he was concerned about how he treated you then fine, but no you do not need to 'respect' his opinion in this case.
3. just tell him that you're interested in seeing where this goes. it would take more than the space allowed to discuss this issue in detail.
4. well, you should respect his opinion, because after all, whoever you end up with will ultimately end up affecting him as well, so there's that to consider. however, age i dont think should be a disqualifying factor. after all, my mother and step father are 11 years apart, and i was only 9 when they married. this may just be his excuse to keeping another man from taking his father's place. talk to him, not us.
5. set him up with a 28 year old hooker and she if that changes his tune!!
6. Definitely age doesn't matter. You can't help who you love. However, my friend is dating a guy who is like 20 years her senior. Who has kids around her age... which is weird. But that's not the point because she doesn't care about that in the least. However, because men usually die younger and they start to slow down sooner as they near senior age. She is in her forties and the prime of her life and he is nearing 70, and while she wants to go out and go, he wants to laze about and stay home, no longer wanting to go out and experience life. I don't know who you want to choose, and i don't want to make your decisions for you. But I want to wish you a good life, and I want you to think about all the posssibilities and concerns and then if you are still happy dating someone 14 years your senior. then kudos to yoU! Goodluck with dating and your son.
7. Tell him you are the adult and you will make the decisions regarding your personal life. I know it sounds harsh, but it's true. I would just try to see this man away from your son. Don't throw him at your son and expect miracles. Wait until you are sure the relationship is going to be strong and steady before you bring the two of them together. You never can tell this guy might be pretty hip and your son might love him. They may find they have a lot in common. A friend of mine married a man older than her and he has been a great step-father to her daughter. Her daughter is now 17 and she adores him. Like you said time will tell if this relationship goes anywhere, so just wait until it does before involving your son.
8. Just get to know the guy and if he is the right one your son will learn to live with it! I was the older guy and my 2 teenage step sons have learned to respect me and that is the best we can hope for. Good luck and God bless. PS try to be careful not to allow your son to come in between you and him later if you guys do get together. There will always be the line to walk between mother and wife.
9. As long as the two of you are happy and on the same emotional plane there should not be a problem. Remember that woman mature faster than men. If you look at your relationship from this stand point, you are the same age! If the relationship continues to grow, I would suggest that you let them spend some time together. This will help your son to understand what you see in him and hopefully he will come around. I hope this helps and hopefully everything will work out great fro you! :)
10. well i know that when i date my mom always ask me why i date older guys and i say that older guys are attracted to me and i feel like they know more because they have already been there done that so. But just tell you son that you are happy and that it is not his life it is your and you is grow and you can date anyone you choose too. Have your son met the man yet? If not let him met him and go on from there just cause he is older than there is a lot that the both of them can do . Tell him to just give the man a try and you cant like everyone.
11. Why are you sharing this information with your son to begin with? Do you really think at his age that you should be confiding in him? I mean as you said you really don't know where if any where this relationship is going. 14 yrs your senior is not too old but you may be jumping the gun a bit. You should share your feelings with an adult if you feel the need but not your child.