Do I give an ultimatum?

I have been dating a man I really like for almost 7 months. We spend most of our free time together and genuinely enjoy each other's company. Unfortunately, there's a problem. In 7 months I have yet to meet even his roommate, much less a friend, coworker or family member. He and I have busy careers but it cant be that impossible to introduce me to the people in his life. I have brought this issue up on three ocassions and he always has an excuse: "his company doesnt allow guests to attend", "he doesnt want to share me "or "the roommate isnt home tonight". He rarely sees his friends (which is true) and he's not close to his family - so I see no issue not having met these two groups. He is very supportive and respectful of me in every other way BUT this just doesnt seem normal. Any advice? He knows its an issue for me yet it hasnt changed...

Public Comments

1. it could be that he has no one and he only has you
2. THE SIGNS ARE THEIR IT'S BETTER TO SEE IT THE WAY IT IS...BEFORE YOU JUST GET SO ATTACHED TO SOMEONE WHO IS NOT WILLING TO SHARE HIS DAILY LIFE WITH YOU ...IT WON'T GET ANY EASIER AS TIME GOES BY THE QUESTION YOU ASK WILL GROW STRONGER ...I THINK IT'S SOUNDS LIKE YOU ALREADY TRY TO JUSTIFY HIS REASONS ANYWAYS BUT I WOULD TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS...AND INVESTIGATE!!! OR WOULD YOU RATHER NOT KNOW THE TRUTH??
3. I totally agree with the second responder. I mean I know most women probably doesn't put much stock into what Cosmo magazine says. But they did have a bit of an article on this very thing. Pretty much it said that if a man wants a future with you he will let you into his inner circle. From meeting friends and family, heck even his roommate. And he invites you to future events too. As you said your guy isn't that close with family and friends, then I think he would at least invite you to a work party as he is there most of the time anyway. But clearly he doesn't wish to do that either. So this guy is telling me 2 things already. 1. He is either not seeing a future with you at all and doesn't want people he knows to get attached to you and then he will look like a chump when he breaks up with you. Or 2. He has either someone at the office or who knows his friends and family or someone really close to him, that he does not want you to meet. I mean seriously if you stop and think about it what kind of logical reasoning is it that he can't let you go to a work party? Or even meet his roommate or friends? He may work alot or he is working extra hard to keep you from meeting someone he hasn't told you about. Girl you had better hope he is not married or cheating on a super jealous gf or something. I say screw the ultimatum and look at the evidence. It can't get any worse than it already is. So time to pack up your stuff and get to trucking yourself. Because no doubt, whatever he is hiding or whomever, will come back and bite you on your azz if you stick around. And you definitely don't need that. Move on, and change your number. Let this guy go for sure.