urgent please help with ADVICE girls.....on RELATIONSHIP?

Here goes: GF broke up w/ me 3.5 wks ago after being together 10 mos. during the last 2-3 mos. I finished a project that I worked with since we began dating and so I had alot of free time on my hands and always was around and wanted to always see her, etc. she is a full time college student and her friends dont live her so they came home for holiday break and i would get upset that she wanted to see them without me and i always wanted to be around her(I know this is really not right). anyways our relationship was amazing and we had a connection that neither of us had ever before and she spoke of the future together, where we would live, kids, dogs, etc. she said when she broke up w/ me she lost attraction for me. I know she has spoke to and hung out w/ her ex recently. I have gotten the typical advice (no contact, move on, etc.) I dont want to though since we have had a connection like no other and I hurt the relationship with my recent neediness..if there is any advice please help me. PS WE HUNG OUT YESTERDAY AND IT WENT WELL, I WASNT PUSHY OR ANYTHING..NOT SURE WHAT TO DO FROM HERE

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1. I would personally just let her go and if it was meant to be she'd be back. If you want to be persistant its an iffy move, cause there may be a slight chance she would go for the persistance, but a bigger possibility she would probably be more apt to think you were a pest and want to stay away from you all together...no friends nothing. So its your choice, you can keep trying to hang out with her, woo her and so on and so fourth...if you love her take the risk, it could go either way.
2. If things are going well when you hang out, and you aren't pushing, then just stay on that road for now. I won't tell you to walk away or move on. However I will tell you to keep your options open while you wait for her to change her mind. Sometimes it's only when people start spending a lot of time together that they realize maybe the relationship isn't what they hoped for. I think you're lucky to walk away from a break up with a friendship. I hope things work out for you. Happy New Year Blessed Be ~Dawna~
3. Although you think you might have had a connection like no other, she might not feel the same way. I'm not saying completely move on, but don't become a weird stalker. Let her have room and just be friends for now. Maybe you could date around a little bit. But if she really feels that you two had a connection, she will come back to you as long as you remain friendly towards her. Don't overdo anything, just don't lose all contact either.
4. this ones simple ... it called "he who cares least" .... Do what you been told ... MOVE ON .. don't call her .. don't contact her ... next time she wants to come see you ... you're busy ... she knows how you feel and walked away, let her think about that ...if that does turn things around it wasn't meant to be dude ... Besides ,kissing her ass isn't gonna help ... makes you look like a push over and no chic wants that for a guy. Your young and should be out in the field anyway.
5. The only advice that I can give you is that you need to talk to her about how you feel. I know this is easier said than done but it is the only thing that will really work. If she still likes you she will want you back. If even after your conversation she still wants to move on you can't really do anything. You just have to move on too. It's hard to hear and accept but it's just the truth. And there is no point in trying to pressure her, it will only make things worse believe me.Girls do not like men who are too available.That is another thing you can try, ignore her, make yourself unavailable, talk with her about some other girl and see her reaction, maybe she's jealous. The bottom line is you cannot linger in the past and in a relationship that clearly one of you doesn't want to be in. Good luck.