Relationship advice for me and my LAZY boyfriend?

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, and I love him. He is sweet, generous, kind; we love to talk to each other and cook together. We get along, it is very comfortable. This is the best relationship I have ever been in. When we first met everything was great, he was working, he had money in the bank and now, he doesn't have a job, he lives with his parents, but stays at my house ALL of the time for free. He does not really have career ambitions, and doesn't have many suggestions on how we will earn a sufficient living for our family in the future. I don't want him living at my house anymoe. He is depressed all of the time with not having a job or any money. He has been unemployed for over a year. I have tried to encourage his job search, looking at places that are hiring with him, giving him suggestings on where to apply. I have tried to stay positive through this whole thing but I am really getting fed up with it. I don't want to break up with him, I love him. Help!!

Public Comments

1. Perhaps he's in a rut and maybe needs to talk to a counselor. You can't do everything for him and he needs to realize relationships are GIVE and take...as well as work! I think you need to tell him he's got to start pulling it together but you can't help someone who won't help themselves. I smell an ultimatum.
2. Tell him to get his head out of his ass and get back into life or he´s out of yours!
3. If he isn't going to put any concern into it then maybe it's not that important to him. I can't see anyone not trying to secure there future. Maybe you two don't share the same life goals with each other. Re-think it. And if you have two give him an ultimatum get a job or your leaving plain and simple.
4. Tough love is what he needs. You need a stable person to date or live with or whatever --- not a bum. He has gotten fat, dumb and happy in the relationship and he's not going to change until you boot his lazy a.s.s. out the door. Seriously, you have to kick him out and let him feel the cold of winter before he will change for the better. If you just threaten, that is all it will be --- an empty threat that will go in one ear and out the other... Good Luck....
5. Truly he is as a God. Slacker for life !
6. It seems to me that your boyfriend just wants to live off of you you. My advice to you is to someone that can support you.
7. You just got to tell him that with you having the only job, it makes it harder to make ends meet. Try going to see a counsellor if he is depressed and keep him job hunting!
8. You are enabling him and that does not help his self esteem. Just explain to him that you love him but you can't do it anymore. He needs to spend some time away from you so he can decide what he wants in life.