need advice on complicated relationship/dating?
I have been with this girl for a few months, we broke up about a month ago. this weekend, she texted me wanting to see me again, missing me etc.. I miss her too, she is perfect to me, but she is studying and working and doesnt have much time for a relationship... I kind of want the security of a relationship rather then just dating, which is what she is offerring, she says she wont be dating anyone else.. just me, but my question is then, isnt that a relationship then anyway? I dont think I understand what she wants?? I know for sure she is not dating other guys, I know her parents and they wont allow it.. so I trust her 100% she studies through an online uni and AIM's me often at night when studying.. so I know she is busy with school stuff.. she has to get "A's" for everything else she is mad at herself, I told her I will give her the space she needs, but because of dating vs relationship difference, I broke it up before.. should I just accept what she is offering? Thanks Simple J! I lilke ur answer! I have plenty of time... I know I can live with it, since it gives me time to be with my friends too... I`ll give it a try ;) I might have been selfish about this before :) I rally care for her and to me she is perfect to me in every way I want when we are together.. So I really want to give it a try ;) Thanks! Thanks Lolita for the book, I have read it and can be very usefull! ;) I am prince charming by nature ;) (seriously) , so that is just a reminder to stay on those paths of ways of communications and to keep things interesting etc.. :) I just got a text message from her and we have agreed to give it another go :) thanks ppl! :) I`m excited! hehe
Public Comments
- if it works for you fine, if it doesnt then dont get into it again.....you gotta do what feels good..and right...
- If she doesn't have time for a relationship, then don't get into one with her. She doesn't have the time to commit to you. You mentioned that she will only date you. Why don't you wait until she's finished with her education? In my perspective, if you do get back with her at this point, there won't be much intimacy. Let her know that you'll wait until she's ready to commit.
- u need to find out if u can accept due to the fact that she is so busy with her life she doesnt have the energy and time to devote to a relationship if u really care for her and see that there s potential go for it and accept what she has to offfer dont break it off but remember u r entitle to live ur life if u meet someone along the way then its her lost cuz she didnt want to commit but u cant blame her she s trying to better her self this is the case of bad timing now remember only accept her offer if u are able mentally to handle it cuz if u cant handle it it will lead to a nasty break up
- I recommend you to read this free E-book called 97 Steps To A Happy Relationship. It's a free and easy download, so it won't hurt to check it out.
