i need dating / relationship advice, seriously!!!!?

here's the thing... the good: i am 35, single, i love kids, very family oriented, have never raised my hand to a woman and i never will, great sense of humor, very affectionate and attentive. could care less about being macho as you can tell by my y/a name lol i would rather spend a day with my wife and kids than out barhopping or watching a football game. the bad: impatient, often low self esteem, impulsive, can be obnoxious at times which can be good and bad depending on the level of obnoxiousness. the ugly: don't have a whole lot going for me now, struggling to find a decent job and there is no way i am going to bring a child into this world that i cannot provide for i am often shy around women which hampers my social life at times. i feel the clock is ticking, i want a family bad and it just seems like a million miles away, any advice?? SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!! KEEP THE SMART *** REMARKS TO YOURSELF PLEASE!!

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1. Everyone has the good, the bad, and the ugly-you left honesty out of the good category though,which is really important. When you r struggling to find a good job ,low esteem can be very normal. It is tough in this state of economy now. I would recommend not letting fear make you want to jump into a relationship, which takes a lot of work no matter how good it is. Get yourself straight with a job and all first then you will have a happy whole person to offer to another.
2. the fact that you know you can not provide for a child just yet is actually very mature of you... obnoxious? aren't we all at times? my advice to you is to "find your self" and learn to love who you are. if you don't love the person you are then you can not love another person the way you should. or the way it seems you want to. and the fact that people say that the sweet guy finishes last is not true. i would much rather have a sweet honest man than a mean abusive one.... good luck!!!! xoxo
3. Aww hun.. your a great guy.. and i have said before its sad not to be in a good relationship -- first of all you will see if you had a job you will put yourself out there >> meet other people((ladies)) you will find it helps!! not to be mean . but if you dont have stuff for yourself << such as a job a place of your own car ETC . how can you offer anything to someone.. ?? i think if you work on that and i know your trying . it will help . good luck .as far as being obnoxious arent we all at times.. you seem like a honest guy thats also important .
4. Keep up the faith. Keep your prayers going up....and trust God's timing. He has someone just right for you by His standards and rules. Don't lower yours!
5. you sound like a very sensible man,who's priorities are bang on, try and get a better social life ,where you can meet woman,and who knows you might find someone and in time you might get the family you deserve. as for your bad points,we all have them its part of life, nobodies perfect. just think positive, it will eventually happen for you..i wish you good luck my friend