advice please?

I have a sister who is 11 months younger than me, I got married 3 years ago, am doing a masters in behavioural genetics and am also working part time. My sister is doing her nursing diploma, and is dating my husbands best mate for 6 months now. Her man is so cool, I mean he's really laid back and we get along really well. Ok, now my sister is the type of person I'd not rather be around in my adulthood, reason being is becuase she's so negative and in a way I feel she brings me down. I am the type of person that likes to try any haircut, clothing etc. I am free to change and learnt this from my modelling shoot days. If I get my hair cut she'd always say something about how she liked my hair hair long, ok so she has a right to her opinion, but she always does it. I am very confortable with myself, and prefer to be natural, I hardly wear makeup however I used to be selfconcious about my face as a teen and so used to slap on makeup. I have a very understanding husband who says I dont need makeup, however my sis says I look better with makeup etc. She's really negative. I mean she even told me how her boyfriend was looking at my pics as a teen and said that I was pretty THEN. To be honest, I dnt see why they have to talk about my looks in the first place whether or not I looked good or bad. Me and my husband just dnt do that. I cant understand my sis

Public Comments

1. sounds like she is jealous of you. keep in mind who is important in all of this. you. and your husband. yes she is entitled to her opinion, and no she apparently can not keep that opinion to herself. you may have to listen, you don't have to hear. do your hair and your makeup, etc., etc., for you. not for her.
2. don't worry about what they think if your husband is happy the way you are that's all you need
3. the good thing is you don't have to understand her! you are an adult, if she brings you down simply find other people to hang with!! i have long stopped trying to understand my two-faced sister. SIMPLE;avoid them at all cost especially if your husband agrees!!!
4. I have a very similar situation with my sister. For the past 6 months I have only been around her when absolutely necessary, and I try to limit our conversations to a minimum. I will not sever our relationship totally out of respect for our mother and my niece. I can definetly say that not having to deal with all of her drama and negativity has made my life calmer. I just could not and did not want to put up with her attitude any longer. It has made me a stronger person for standing up for myself and not letting myself be the "doormat" she complains about to make herself feel better about her life.