Single mom dating again....?

Been divorced for nearly 4 years, have dated periodically but nothing serious.. I have currently been dating a guy that I have known as a friend of a friend for about 6 years. We are really digging each other and would like to move the relationship forward. I would like some advice on how to introduce my young children to him in a healthy way, as well as prepare him to meet them. Just want to make sure it's productive, healthy, etc. Also, how can I lay out the boundaries as far as really just wanting him to get to know them rather than be a "parent" to them in a positive way? Thanks so much!!

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2. Well since your friend already knows you have children, I'd suggest taking it in steps. After a date have him come in as they are in bed or going to bed, and then another time invite him over for a meal (If they are well behaved at least ;) ) Show him that your children are a very important part of your life and if he truly has feelings for you he will learn to value that side of your life and hopefully it becomes a smooth transition for you.
3. Invite him and your children out to a completely innocent activity such as going out for Pizza, going to the kids favorite low key laid back restaurant, going to the park to play ball, swing on the swing sets, have a picnic. If they are a bit older, choose appropriately. They will ask why he is going, tell them that he is your special friend and he wants to take you all someplace together. He will have to understand your boundaries very clearly before he meets them. Make no mistakes in your stating your wishes, that way he will have no confusion later. However if he is going to be in your life for a while and he is around them often, you will have to accept that he does have the right to some degree of authority in maintaining some order. No not spanking or punishment but he must have the ability to verbally communicate as an adult when a disrespectful situation arrises. Children are very smart. You do not want them to run him over and take advantage of him or you because of the your rules. Good Luck, good idea to negotiate this before hand. I am always on the side of the kids, they only have you to look out for them.