single parent?

hey i am a single parent and i have 5 kids the olest 13 the younest 1 my wife died 3 years ago and i am ready to start dating again by my oldest dont want me to date and get's upset when i teel her i am going to start dating again what should i do? i mean i know her motgher died but i really want to date? my daughter has told me that she will leave and never come back if i date another woman. she is my little girl? but i need some advice

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1. aw well give your daughter some time. she matters more then your needs right now.
2. 5 kids no ones going out with you
3. She'll likely get used to the idea, especially if you meet someone really great. Try to have a talk with her about how a new relationship would make things better for you, and for her as well. There would be benefits for her, if you met someone special. Also, assure her that she will always be your daughter, and very important to you, and that her mother was special too. She may feel like you're betraying her mother.
4. think about how ur daughter feels..ask her why she don't want u to date? its probably weird for her..seeing her dad w/ another woman thats not her mom she probably doesn't want to accept another girl other than her in ur life reassure her that she is still ur little girl, and u will always love her, that a new woman in ur life won't change the relationship between u two
5. Maybe you need to give her some more time. I would talk to her, explain that there comes a point when you need to move on, and that her mother will always have a place in your heart. Anything that you do should be taken slowly. And make sure that your daughter approves, considering that this will greatly affect her too, and if she is unhappy, she will make you unhappy too.
6. Talk it out with her make sure she really understands, 13 is still small to me.Tell her you understand her mothers died and she will always be with you whatever you do and if i move on dosn't mean she has to. hope this helps x
7. Yeah you gonna have to take her alone to some place outside the house and have a real conversation with her and explain the importance of continuing life if that is what you want to do. Even though Dr. Laura said that a father like you should be focusing on his kids specially that you have one year old child. I mean I understand how you feel and that you need to have a relationship but why don't wait until that small child is a bit older because you could lose your attention. Few more years is not that long. You can spend quality time with your kids and this oldest daughter can even grow older and come to terms to understand you better than she did.
8. This will have to be a separation of children and Dad. Don't involve them. Not yet. You are allowed a little privacy just like she is going to want while she is dating boys and talking on the phone. If you ever meet a woman and decided she is worthy of you and your children than I would announce that. Not right now though.
9. Try (in many / any way) to INVOLVE her in your "new relationships." - Aim to gain her support for you meeting this *someone new.* Aim to view the situation from the same perspective as your kids so this animosity will not rage it's face in your family.