Need some realtionship advice ?

Hi everyone thanks for helping before hand! I have been dating my Girlfriend for 8 months. I cant Speak for her but I can at least say I like her as a person more than any girl i've ever experienced or have been attracted to. I've had these feeling since the first night we meet and they keep getting stronger. We are both very attractive people, have never had a fight - not one, both atheist - which is hard to find and is important in the way we live our life and carry out our ethics. We hang out all the time, gone on trips, just got back from xmas with my family, into art, politics, working out ect, ect. Prior to us meeting we were hell bent on staying single and "free" forever. The issue is not our relationship - i think that its excellent but this is for the both of us our first relationship. Out side of prior dates and us both sleeping around a bit at one point, this is all we have to go off of but it just seems to good. Is this what every relationship is like when you find someone that's compatible? At times i feel like im taking our relationship too serious and feel like im missing out of other potential great relationships with women...... but I also know i'm not really compatible - relationship wise (i have tried), with many women for anything more than a one night stand (i'm attractive and in great shape but to into classical music,wine,art. law and political policy - which bores women ) and to feel anyway close to the way i feel about her is a tall order since i have felt this way about her from day one, and find her eternally attractive. Because of our sick sense humor, world view and passionate interest in art and politics/law - which may sound interesting but, when it comes down to it most people are just saying that stuff to sound interesting and after a date i could tell.. Most women and men really are not that deep or passionate about anything and, many people look down on you for not being religious also. Another issue is that i'm going to law school and while she potentially may come with me at the same time she's thinking of moving to europe.While I would love to do that I need to finish law school. Basically from experience would you stay together no matter what as long as its going great? Or are we just enthralled that this is our first real relationships? does a relationship like this happen more once you get in the groove of having a realtionship/s ? For the more experienced people, in hindsight did you make the right decision when having to move to a new job,school ect ect, or wish you should have stayed with your first love cause you never ended up finding better. I guess my worst fear is ending a relationship on such good terms because of conflicting futures; issues which upon graduation we will have to deal with.

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1. Well, it sounds like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders. From the way you describe, your relationship seems very, very well off. The only real advice I could give you on this is to think things through. Relationships like this don't come around very often, from my experience anyway - And I'm somewhat similar to the way you describe yourself. What it comes down to, as far as the relationship becoming long distance, is that you have to really think things through. Weigh the pros and cons of staying in a relationship or ending it. But if you feel as though she's the one for you then by all means hang in there and find a way to make things work. Just remember that neither of you should have to sacrifice your individual futures. For instance, if you stay with her and move to Europe before finishing law school, you have to accept the fact that you may not get that chance again. Likewise for her, she may give up her only chance to go to Europe to stick with you through law school. That my friend is a very hard choice to make, and you each have to respect each other for the others decision. What I would do is take some time to sit down and talk with each other about the subject at hand. Get a feel for what she wants to do and vice verse. Wish you the best of luck, and take time with your decision. Don't rush something complicated like this.
2. The issues you are concerned about are very valid. Although you have been together for 8 months you feel that you are so great together that it is meant to be, but you still think that you have enough bait to keep fishing. If you think that she is the one, tell her. but also keep in mind that she may not think the same way. As long as you can disagree and still repect the other persons point of veiw then it shouldnt matter where you are or how far apart you are. If you are really worried about a relationship ending on good terms then I envy you. when i was in school i dated a girl for just over 6 years and we talked about marrige, kids and career..2years after that disolve i married my wife of 5 years. there have been times that i wish the split was on good terms, and even now i wish i can ask her advise on things, but because we lost respect for the other and broke off the engagement, we cant even be friends. If you can be friends and be honest about how you feel then you shouldnt worry about what happens. You make her happy, she makes you happy...What did you sacrafice for such greatness? I guess what i was getting at was, I had a good relationship i let end on a sour note... Now married it gets rocky at times, throw a couple kids in the mix and those rocks are jagged. But I love my wife and my kids, I never want to leave them, but If i was still friends with my ex, i could get honest advise. there is so much more that can be said but im too tired to think and my fingers aren't connecting to the brain quickly enought to type well, so i will wish you the best of luck with your struggle and howpe that you can make it through better than me.
3. well basically, i think a part of the reason your so unsure is because this IS your first real relationship and it seems like your worried you won't find anybody like her out there. the truth is, if she is your first love, if you guys ever broke up and until you actually were 100% over her, to you there would be no one better out there. its a bit hard to explain but really, you have to just go with your gut instinct. do you think it's worth staying with her and are you with her for the right reasons? or are you only still with her because you think you wont find any better or of equal personality etc like her. if your with her for the right reasons and really are in love with her then i would stay. but if your only still with her because your scared of the future of finding someone whos perfect in your eyes then you should really bail. if someone is in a relationship for the wrong reasons then it will take a toll in the long run. it WILL lead to fights and then maybe even breaking up, so then you stayed with that person for what? it ending badly in the end anyway. it's always difficult to let go of your first love but it is possible, take it from someone who managed to do it. so just ask yourself those questions and if you think that what you have going with her is worth the time and effort, then go for it. i explained it as best i could, hope it helped you out at least a little