I recently met a nigerian man on a Christian website. , he lives in Houston ,TX and says he has his papers, we

have a lot in common, and he seems to be on the up and up, we have only been talking a few days, he calls regularly and seems to be genuine. However, I have heard so many things about nigerian men trying to scam women. He has not asked me for anything, and he is planning to come visit me in a few weeks. He works for a major airline so he travels for free. My question is before I get to involved how can I know if he is real and not up to something? Any women on her ever dated a nigerian man? Oh and if it helps he has been in the states for 10 yrs.. any help or advice will help. in response to stephanie, he is divorced and has papers. He seems to be consistent in the things he tells me, because i constantly bring them up again. I'm no fool and usually know when someone is lying, because i have had scammers approach me before. This man has asked me for nothing.

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1. please, if he's going to be visiting you, dont let him stay in your house. even though you've talked to him on the phone, you dont really know him that well. when you spend time together, spend time in a public area where people will always be. keep your gaurd up at all times.
2. meet him in a puublic place and dio a background check on him or hire a sleuth
3. well as long as he has his papers you know hes up on his shots
4. You will know he is up to something if he starts asking you for money...I read a story that sounds like yours accept that the lady was stupid enough to send him thousands of dollars. He then just took off.
5. well, yes, there is a scam going around relating to Nigerian people (not just men) scamming and trying to get money out of people. But, it's hard to say, if you chat on the phone, then I wouldn't worry too much because chances are he really may be what he says he is(international calls are expensive!!) But, if your only contact is on-line, then I would be a little weary. But, you never know you just have to follow you gut feeling. Stay Strong. Stay Positive.
6. If he asks for anything say no. Meeting someone youve only talked to for a few days is insane. I hope you dont plan on being alone when you meet him. That goes for anyone you meet online.
7. I lived in Houston for a while and the only think I'll say on the subject is be very wary of Nigerian men from Houston!!!!
8. Go for it! Meet him in a public place, like the airport or a cafe. DON'T send him money even if he sounds sincere, he should understand. Set up a system when you meet him that you should call a friend right before you go to bed after meeting him, and again in the morning for the duration of his visit, just in case..... I know this sounds weird, but people can be really good actors. Good Luck/Best Wishes!!!!
9. I would be very wary before getting involved. I would run a background check online based on his name,dob, and his address (things you can casually ask in conversation). "Christian" sites are easy targets because they give women a false sense of security.
10. One good way is to run a credit check on him. It costs some but it may very well be worth it. Experian etc can be found on the Internet.
11. OK OK OK. don't make the same mistake my friend did. Don't make him come and see you because it is a scam like you said. Believe me my friend knew this guy for about two years and then she found out he was married with 5 kids and left them at home, so he can find a better job in the U.S. I think you can do better than a guy who you met on a Christian website because that's where they go to get women's money. Please don't talk to this like as a lover because he will scam you alive. Of course he is talking all nice on the phone and calls you everyday because he doesn't want you do think that he is a bad guy. Please there is lots of guys that you know in your town and keep it up with the ones you know, not from some website plus Nigerian who wants to see you in few weeks. Be very careful and even if you meet with him take someone with you. If he answers all your questions with nervousness that means he is hiding something from you and if he is answering you right away that means he is prepared before he meets with you. JUST BE VERY CAREFUL OUT THERE.