I need advice on this..........please?

I've been dating this incredible older man for a month. he's 12 years older than me, divorced with 4 kids and hadnt dated since a 3 year relationship that ended a year ago. We started dating, went to friends mode, then back to dating slowly 2 days latter. He says he wants to go slow and see where we are in 4 months or so. He says he doesnt want to get hurt, however he hasnt turned me down and told me he sees me as more than a friend. He is very busy, works weeks daytime and thurs-sunday nights and spends most of his free time with his kids.He took me out twice last week and before we went out once a week.Latley he had been calling daily and I would call him maybe everyother day or so.Yesterday I asked him if I would be seeing him that week and he doesnt know.Today he hasnt called, how can I tell if he's just busy or demoting me? I don't wanna be calling him and him answering or returning calls just to be polite. Would it be a bad thing if I initiate more phone calls?

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1. He's too old for u.
2. leave him and then move on , dont let hjim yank you around
3. he's just busy. obviously don't leave all of the calling to him, but don't make him feel pressured either.
4. dump him because you'll never get any where.
5. Even though he's a bit older than you, sounds like he's got a lot of emotional and physical baggage. You have to accept that and not second guess his every move. Sounds like you're at least third on the list... family, work, then relationship. You have to give it time and really hang in there if you're interested. He's been there, done that.
6. i think your worrying too much. like you said hes a really busy man and i think that he tries to make an effort to hang out with you as much as possible. Also like you said he took you out two times last week so he probably knew hed be busy so he wanted more time with you. If i were you i wouldnt worry so much about him calling you because he probably doenst want to be clingy and dont think that he doesnt want to talk to you because thats not true. He has a busy job and also 4 kids to take care of and hes trying to juggle all that plus spend time with you. give him some time hun and he'll come around :)