I need dating advice???? Please!!!!!?

I am dating a guy who is really sweet. Everything is going well but I have my reservations about him. He is just getting out of college so money is tight for him. It often seems like he tries to take me to places that are free or he makes food selections at a restaurant based on what I am getting. I often end up paying. I am out of school. I have a job, house, car, no debt or student loans. I can't help but worry about the future with him.). I have never dated anyone that I had to offer up so much of myself and my wallet. In the back of my mind, I think about being the bread winner and it does not set well with me. I have even seen him make frivolous purchases and then later in the day, not have any money for an activity he planned. What should I do?

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1. This sounds familiar. I once said to my now husband, "I don't think you will ever be able to provide for me and our daughter." Wow. I really hurt his feelings. After speaking with my mother, she says, "If you can't learn to accept him for who he is, then you need to move on." It was good advice- we are married today. I waited 10 years to marry him. He is the provider that I thought he could not be. I also realized that a family background has a lot to do with the way people are. His mother certainly did not help our situation. Not everyone grows up and changes. But if you love him, he might be worth the wait.
2. That's a little hard there but honesty your young and should be in a loving relationship so my advice to you is not to get to serious in having him living with you just yet.your going to have to talk to him in a sincere way let him know how you feel to see if he has any pride in showing you that he can be responsible to take care of you someday.don't worry about the future make your own decisions for now your life is set but if your happy with your life and he loves you like crazy then it won't do you no harm by staying in the relationship.money isn't everything he can make plenty of it once he gets his life together maybe you should push him a little in making him realize that you also want to be taking care of too.