NEED ADVICE!! Online Dating?

Hi, Alittle over 2 years ago When I was 14.. I met a guy in an online game. He was 16.. I fell in love with him.. or should I say We fell in love with eachother. We've spent everyday, several hours a day together. Whether its just talking.. playing games or watching movies. I dont have alot of characters left for the entire story so I'll cut it short.. Year and half after dating.. I traced his IP it came out to a different city where he told me he lived.. I confronted him.. He said bad past with his dad.. his mom would freak if he told their real location.. Here i am 2 years and 3 months into this relationship.. and I asked him where he works.. He wont tell me.. I find this odd. and a major trust issue.. He said with his past.. its created fear and weird beliefs.. I just have to accept that and in time.. he'll tell me.. Come on after 2 years and 3 months of spending everyday with someone.. Why wont he tell me where he works.. Why did he lie about the city he lives?

Public Comments

1. If I was in your position, I'd take it as in indication to leave this guy and this relationship behind.
2. He lied. He will keep on lying. If he wanted a truthful relationship with somebody, he wouldn't be online looking for it. You are his pretend girlfriend. He probably has a much more serious one in real life. So make him your pretend boyfriend. Don't take him seriously, dear.
3. Online relationships are often unreliable. You never have a real, true way to know who is behind the screen unless you meet them in real life. You could tell him that if he isn't going to be honest with you that you don't want to be a part of this anymore. If he really does love and trust you, I believe he will tell you. If not, I don't think you should waste any more time on it. Good luck!
4. He's online and can make up any story he wants to and not have to worry whether you'll believe or not. Here's the thing that person you're "dating" (I do that because talking to someone online and not actually hugging or talking face to face or anything is not dating) could be 43 and tell you he;s 16 and while he might be 16 you truly don't know anything about him and while what he say might be true why would you want to date someone online anyway when you can find someone in real life that you can hold hands with or kiss or see their face or see them smile and hear their laugh.
5. I think you're being played major!! If its been little over 2 yrs and he won't tell you nothing about him, he's playing you. Another.. it sounds like he's one of those weird psycho guys who lure girls into their games. Dump him. If he was a real decent grown up guy, there's absolutely no flippin' reason why he should not tell you things about himself.
6. Most likely this person isn't who they say they are. Your case doesn't seem uncommon. Just search through Google and you'll find other stories of people who went through the same thing. You have to remember that everyone isn't themselves on the internet. This might be an alias used for confidence to talk to you.
7. so you've been with this person IRL??? if that the case & he wont tell u where he works - thats just nuts. this usually means that theres something that hes hiding whether it be that hes a stripper or that he works with his "gf". sometimes you gotta make a man make a decision, but do it with out an actual ultimatum (you'll never get anywhere with ultimatums & men). if i were you id just stop. stop seeing him & if he inquires why simply reply you dont trust me & i dont think people who dont trust each other should be in a relationship. if he doesnt inquire then you know that something was up & he wasnt being honest with you - & trust me you DONT NEED THAT!!!! PS- DONT GET EMOTIONAL!!!!
8. The fact is he's lying to you and since it is only an online relationship I suggest you end it w/ this guy. If he cant tell you where he lives and works after all the time then he's hiding something. Maybe he isnt who he says he is, otherwise there would be no reason to lie especially if you love a person you would be totally honest w/ that person at all times. You have to think, why would he really want to keep his location a secret...come on think, and why would he want to keep his job a secret...hmmm oh yes he's definately hiding something, and im sure its his REAL identity. Trust me when I was around 16 (22 now) I had my share of online dating and I know something something about it and I been through what you are w/ a guy that wouldnt tell me anything come to find out it was a female...how disgusting!!! anyways I didnt fall in love w/ this guy who was actually a girl thank GOD! lol but still its the fact that alot of times you cant trust these ppl online, I mean its possible to find some honest trustworthy ppl online b/c I met my husband online a dating site and we been married a month and together 2 years but after chatting and talking on the phone for 6 months we finally met up and would visit each other every weekend up until i finally moved to where he was and got married. Oh and btw, have you ever talked to him on the phone or anything like actually heard his voice? If not ask him if you can and see what lame excuse he comes up w/. Just be careful ok, leave him alone.
9. i would make sure you can see him on cam to see if he ain't someone else. pics don't count. anyone can produce a pic of "themselves". you want to see him in motion where he can't fake that it's him. if he refuses to do that, then he's hiding something really bad and you should drop him. he could be dangerous. he may say he has no cam and can't afford one. but they only cost about $20. that's no excuse. maybe he's part of a witness protection program. and maybe he won't tell you where he works because you already know where he lives and could find him. and then others could find him. maybe he thinks you could have some link with his dad or something. but that don't make too much sense. why would he talk to you for over 2 years if that was the case. there may be good reasons why he's being secretive, but he needs to realize that you are a person with your own life and have a right to know what you're getting yourself into. if he can't comply with that, then you may need to ditch him before you get even more attached.