Internet dating question?
I joined an internet dating site. I had one date with someone who I felt a true connection with. He asked if I would want to have a second date and I said yes. He left for a ten day business trip out of the country the day after our date. He hasn't contacted me since the date. I didn't expect him to either until he returned. I saw last night that he was online on the site. Should I email him a nice hello message while he is out of town? OR Should I just wait for him to contact me? I am 31 and so bad at this stuff with men. I have always messed it up in the past. Who should contact who etc....? any advice?
Public Comments
- I have honestly found that for online dating you really have to see each other a few times to gauge their interest level... Never allow yourself to feel something for someone that is more than what they are feeling for you... since, in this case, he asked you for a second date... it does not seem to out of the question for you to contact him and say thank you for the nice time and you are looking forward to your second date... but that is it. if he does not respond, but he is online - then he is interested in more than one person at a time and you have two choices, one cut ties, two, date others also until the two of you decide it will be exclusive... Online dating is kind of ok, you can sort of get to know a little about someone before you even meet --- but the true test of character is how (or if) they respond to you -- and how often you see them in 'real life'...
- why not contact him??? --- i know i would not think badly of you if you did --- there are no rules --- best wishes
- To be honest I wouldn't even wait. If he messages you on the website that is great. If he doesn't you don't really have anything to lose because you haven't really gotten to far with this person in the first place. If you message him you may seem desperate. He also might not want a second date and that is why he isn't sending you a message on the website. It has happened to me before and I just had to move on because people can be very deceptive and say one thing and really mean another.
