Need Advice, online turned in person dating question?

Ok i am in my 30's and met a man online. We chatted for several months and then decided to meet. Meeting went great and he was great for a week after meeting. We live quite a distance apart and would have to fly to see eachother. Its now been a couple of months since meeting. No talk by him of meeting again. He has a busy demanding job so when i ask he said " no idea yet on when" because of work. I contact him way more than he contacts me which i am going to change. He doesn't call or try to talk to me as much as he did pre meeting. The talk now just seems friendly. I gave him an out and told him if things were different i would still think the world of him and he says all is the same. He has contacted me a few times and even seemed to get a little jealous and act interested but for the most part he avoids making it sound more than friends. When i ask though he says we are good. Why the change in contact? Why avoid? Why not just tell me? Its not like i can show up at his door? Oh yeah and i am sure he is not married or dating anyone else. That i do know for a fact.

Public Comments

1. He doesn't like you and it's over. Move on!
2. At this stage of the game, this behavior should send up a few red flags for you. Not to mention, long-distance relationships are close to impossible even when they were well-established when the distance happened... This would be really tough. He's probably just unwilling to tell you that getting closer is not in the cards.
3. Truth is, even if this wasn't a long-distance relationship, things like these do happen. People do change over the course of time. The only difference is, do you still feel that he cares about you? If not, then its up to you to do something about it. But pushing for an answer (which he probably wont give upfront) wont do you any good. You gotta know when to move on and when to stick it out. if he really is worth sticking out. Unless you guys have plans of bringing this to another level or have concrete future plans, then this set-up might just be a cause of frustration for you. Guys who are so busy will rarely change their work routine if they met you online. But if he really is serious with you, he would have made you feel that already without you asking for it. Inconsistent guys are such a headache. If he really cared, he would treat you better than this.