Advice about online dating?
I have never tried online dating before. Well recently I met a guy online, we have exchanged photos, etc. Anyway, what advice could you give me on how to make this successful? Especially men, what would really turn you off about a girl online? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks strayeagle I appreciate your advice! I did not thumbs down you! Lol This guy I have met on Facebook so I know it is definitely his photo and he is genuine.
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- just be careful and make sure you really know the guy before you do anything
- You need to date in RL. Online relationships never go anywhere, and always have chances for lieing. Instead of a buff, hot guy, it could be a fat, 50 year old slob. I apologize for being so quick to consider you where the one to thumbs down me. Online dating is crap. You dont know how the guy really is, and niether does he know you. You guys could be cheating on each other and niether of you would know. You guys probaly live MILES away from each other, so how the heck do you plan to spend time with him? Huh? And going to meet him is also dangerous, cause he could kidnap you, rape you, then leave your lifless body in a dumpster.
- I personally don't favor online dating.But honestly you have to be yourself.You don't want to spend the rest of your life with some guy who doesn't love you for who you REALLY are.You know?So just be who you are and try meeting them in person sometime ;)
- Make sure you meet him during the day, in a public place... tell a friend or relative where you are going, his name and his cell phone number.. do not go in his car, at least not for the first meeting.. I find I can get to know a person better....on line before we even meet....
- It would turn me off if a girl were too desperate or needy. I really am against meeting people online, but sometimes it works out for people and I hope it does for you and that you're safe. That's another thing, make sure that if you do meet you're ready. It's hard to know what someone is truly liek over the internet. Bring a friend with you the first time you meet. Good luck I suppose.
- Just because a relationship works online doesn't mean it will work in person. Don't get too attached to him until you've had a chance to spend time with him. If you get to a point where you think it could be serious, I would encourage to take the relationship offline as much as you can.
- Online dating is never safe...that's why you should just stick to the old fashioned way.....but you should be meeting the guy in a public place, asking him deep questions and being sure if you want the relationship to go forward.
- just be ur self if they dont like u then thats there problum
- I think the worst thing a person can do is misrepresent themselves. It's so easy to state more than what you are or can do. Once you meet in person, the truth will all come out. If it turns out you said something that wasn't true, like "oh I love hiking in the mountains" when in fact you despise it. Or if you pass a photo of yourself from 5 years ago when you were thin and attractive and you've let yourself go since, then you're relationship will come to a quick end.
- first of all i would rather start by askin the police! show a pic. and bout the name (just to be careful)some are liars scammers and that would be the worst!2nd of all i realy dont recomend online datin sites cuz some r well not truthful!the guy u r talking to could be faking or scamming or even trying to get to u for something else im not sure what though so be careful especialy if u r gona meet and doesnt show up that would be a total scam!!
- 1) Be genuine - There's no point in trying to convince the guy you are someone you are not or that you are interested if he's clearly wrong for you. 2) Be safe - there are good guys out there, but standard precautions should apply if you are planning to meet. 3) Be open - even if the guy doesn't fit some cookie cutter list for an ideal man, give the guy a chance if he is a good man. One good rule of thumb...how does he treat others he doesn't have anything to gain from? Wait staff, animals, etc. 4) Avoid silly "Game" timing rules.
- know what you feel and say what you feel. this is very important because feelings and motives are hard to interpret over the internet. for this reason each party that participates in an online relationship needs to be unusually forthcomming about there feelings
- In my experience online dating does not work. You can get to know someone over the internet but then when you meet them it's very weird, you know a few facts about them but they are still a complete stranger. I find it very artificial and have stopped doing it.
- If you're going to try online dating, then my advice would be for you to try for 1-3 months with a service which you HAVE TO PAY FOR. The reason for this is a subscription based service creates a barrier for married people who are cheating on their partners, through the fact that a credit card has to be used. Okay, some cheaters will circumvent this, but its a barrier. Secondly, make sure you put a RECENT decent picture of yourself. It needs to be a clear face picture. Profiles with no pictures attract less than 10% of the responses of profiles which have pictures. A fuzzy picture taken with a mobile phone, or a crappy scan of a picture taken 10 years ago is not going to help. If you're worried about someone you know seeing you on here - remember, they have to sign up to see you, so what are they doing here?? If you have an active interest which you're passionate about, then put a picture of yourself pursuing this either as the main picture (if its clear) or as a secondary photo. You may attract someone with similar interests. The free text you write will also make or break your profile. You need to write as though you're talking to someone you've met for the first time, and it needs to capture people's attention. Remember, there are hundreds of profiles on an internet dating site. A pitfall with some internet dating sites are deadwood profiles - profiles of individuals who haven't signed on in ages (who never removed them). Before writing to someone, check to see when they last signed on. Some of the other users on here have pointed out the potential dangers. Meeting someone on here poses no more danger than meeting someone in a night club. However, you need to exercise caution. A good place to meet someone is the bar of a well known establishment. If either of you are going into an unknown geographical location then the bar of a well known chain-hotel (e.g. Holiday Inn, Marriott) will eliminate the possibility of going to some really dodgy pub. When going to meet someone, let someone else know your whereabouts and expected return time - along with the details of who you're meeting. If you're too embarrassed then leave a piece of paper somewhere (where they can be found easily) with the details on.
