I need online dating advice!?

Often, I'll meet nice guys online but they'll never take the next step and actually ask me out. Instead, they write things like "So now what?" Or they keep e-mailing me with tons of questions. I think after a few e-mails they should ask for my number or invite me for coffee or a drink. Am I wrong to stop writing back after a few e-mails?

Public Comments

1. nope you are in the right
2. You are right. There seem to be some people, men and women, who go online to play "dating tag", they never commit to actually meeting or they just want to flirt or talk dirty. If they aren't interested one way or the other when it is time to actually make a real life date, tell them to go back to World of Warcraft and move on.
3. I'm with you on that - I usually want to meet sooner rather than later. I had wasted a lot of time before writing or on the phone not knowing who I was really talking to - after meeting you at least know whether it's worth your time or not. Since girls react so differently online many guys may not want to scare you off by asking to meet. Why don't you suggest meeting when you're ready instead of emailing back and forth.
4. Don't expect them to initiate the first step in meeting. You can do that as well. If you've sent 3 emails back and forth and there has been no mention of exchanging phone numbers or meeting for coffee, then that person is probably juggling a couple of other members at the same time. But if you've mentioned that you would like to talk over the phone or meet and they've declined and would rather send more email, then either that person is more than likely married or they aren't too interested in dating. You'll find the same recycled faces and profiles on 3 or 4 different sites. A lot of these guys have recently left a long term relationship and are curious to know what is out there and aren't looking for anything serious.
5. When I was on-line dating I wanted to meet face to face ASAP.You can't get any chemistry from e-mail. It took awhile, but I found a very nice woman and I'm very happy.
6. Why can't you ask them out? Most guys want to meet up sooner rather than later, but so many of the girls want to "take things slow" (a mistake in my opinion) so they go at her pace, but they don't know what her pace is. What's so hard about saying, "How about meeting up for coffee sometime this week?" If you are one of those women that expects the man to make all the moves then you are living in the wrong century.