I need some advice from someone who is my age or older free 10 points!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Heres the deal, me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months now and this is the second time he's pulled this stunt by not calling. his phone is not turned off he has some minutes on his phone and I don't know whats going on with him. He has few financial issues because of the recession and he's moved out of his apartment that he was paying high rent for and now he's working 2 jobs and living in hotels I love him to death but he can call eventhough he's busy. Am I over reacting or is he avoiding me? My mom is scared for me because he's older than me and that stresses him so is he avoiding that to? he did this before and we worked it out and now he's not calling again and i am worried for him because I love him with all my heart!!

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1. your over reacting
2. i dont no
3. !i think he is avoiding you, its best to let him go!!!
4. hmmm u gta realise tht boys never call at the right time.. and if they never call then dnt call them.. if he cares he will call otherwise leave him til realises what he has lost x
5. guys just go through these phases... it doesnt mean they dont care. Guys just seriously dont understand how important it is for them to call... one call can mean a lot. I would wait it out. He seems like he is having a really hard time, and I think that he just doesnt want you to see him at a weak time in his life, or he is just seriously so busy that he doesnt think its a big deal. Many guys dont want to appear "whipped" to their friends either.. which is why they may not call all the time. I wouldnt over worry, just relax, it will all work out :) good luck
6. I agree---I think you are over reacting. sheesh.
7. Well maybe somethings going on with him and he has a problem that he dont know how to take care of. Just try and call him and if he doesn't answer give him time to call you. When he does answer or call you back just stay calm and ask him how he's been, then try and help him with whatevers on his mind. on the other hand, he maybe ignoring you. so let him go.
8. stop over reacting the man has to much on his mind..he will call you when he can...the more you call the less he will want to talk to you...lay back and stop being on his shoes...you know he has problems already...so why give him more...give him space and time...don't force no one to talk to you...you don't want to see him run from you right so just relax...if he is meant for you he will call sooner or later...otherwise then he probably won't...that's how things are...just give him time and space....and don't worry to much about it...he will get back to you but just relax...
9. There's the very real chance that in addition to just being stressed out, that he's depressed (I would be in that situation). Isolating himself and pushing the people that are close to him out of his life is a big sign of that. The best thing you can do is let him know that you will be there for him when/if he wants to talk to you. The worst thing you could do is make him even more stressed and depressed by making him feel bad for pushing you away. It may be hard to understand and accept... but unless you know exactly what's going on in his head - what I wrote above is all you can do. Hopefully he'll talk to you soon about what is going on. There is the possibility that something else is going on, but try not to make assumptions until you know...
10. forget him temporary fill i am ready
11. i honestly think youre over reacting. just give some time because hes probably just busy. like what you said, he has 2 jobs and financial problems.
12. Maybe he just needs a little space at the moment, sounds like he is stressed at present especially working 2 jobs, so just be there for him and for support, if he really loves you he will need that, if he is trying to get out of the relationship then that will become pretty obvious over the next few weeks. The worst thing you can do is to keephounding him and causing him more stress, so just keep a bit of distance for now and see what happens, i truly hope it turns out how you want, but if it doesnt you have a lot of life in front of yoy so enjoy it, for now hang with friends and try and enjoy yourself, Good Luck
13. he might need some time to work things out, but at the end of the day it wouldn't hurt to give you a courtesy call now would it. my suggestion is... you've tried ringing,no answer, so now the balls in his court. give yourself a time in which you can wait for him to call, say 1 week and if he doesn't then be prepared to move on sweet. its hard i know but sometimes its not worth the pain and anguish. take care ☺
14. I know exactly what you mean. I love my fiance alot to and he used to pull that crap alot. He loves you and wants to be with you, he just is goign thru a rough time right niw and might need some space. My advice to you is not to call him and let him call you. I know, its hard because all you want is the best for them and want to know that they are okay. But trust me, i learned this the hard way that men want to chase the woman not the other way around. So don't call him until he calls you, because guaranteed he will wonder why you haven't called him and call you.
15. Well, maybe he needs a break from the relationship. You called him, now it is his turn to call you back. He might not want to call you when he's upset, because he knows that will upset you. Wait until he calls you, and when he does, DON'T mention him not calling. Just say that you are so glad he called and as how he's doing. Don't make it a big deal, and he won't. He may be sort of a cancer personality, where if something stresses him out then he goes into a corner and mulls over what's going on, and generally doesn't like to open up to others. He should be honest with you, but some people need their space when they're upset. It sounds like he has reasons to be upset too :( Just be happy when he calls you and that will affirm to him that you love him and are supportive of him even when his life situations are s-word.
16. Here is a good idea: Next time, be too busy to care. Find something else to occupy yourself with, because he is showing you by his actions that occupying yourself with him isn't going to work. Let him have his quiet time. Let him live in his hotel or work his jobs. If he wants you, he'll chase you down like a hound dog on a fox hunt. YOU BE TOO BUSY. That's more impressive to a man than a girl who freaks out when he doesn't call. Get busy girlfriend!