19 year old girl in need of advice on a new relationship...?
Hi, like I said I'm 19 and I just met a great guy about a week ago. We had a wonderful first date and he called me the next night to chat for about 45 minutes. He told me to feel free to call the next day, so I did and we talked for the same amount of time. Now, aside from online chatting, we haven't talked on the phone. I don't know if I should call him or wait. And worse... does this mean he's losing interest? He definitely seemed into me whenever we talked but now that it's been a few days I'm starting to worry. I'll give out 10 points to the most helpful answer!
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- i don't think he's losing interest--he just doesn't want to seem desperate!! boys have a complex about that...wait a couple days and see if it picks up again, if not, sure- give him a jingle and try talking to him--but don't get right into the whole ''why didn't you call me?? i thought you liked me! blah-blah-blah..'' it won't get you anywhere
- I think he is just dating around! Y'all are probably just dating and he may have other girls he's dating! Uhh.. I say you call him! He probably won't! Guys never do!
- call him! There is no point in just sitting around and wondering what is going on. If you are afraid to straight out call him, then initiate some sort of hint when talking to him online. If you are spending this much time worrying about it, is it really worth it after one date?? You will never know until you talk to him and see how he feels.
- well honetly guys are usually just on chill mode hes probably not trying to act deperate like calling you all the time. and so, hes leaving it up to you. if you like him i dont see the harm in calling him. just call him and say you just called because you wanted to see how hos day was going or what not. but if hes still talking to you online then he is interested. odnt worry so much, just give him a call. but then again he may not be the type of guy to call people. my bf is like that. he never relly calls me he waits till i call him. and if i dont he'll wait all day till like 10 and then call me. so i mean idk. just call him.
- Best thing to do is to talk to him and ask him what he wants. Ask if he wants to actually talk to you. Maybe he is like me, maybe he flows better when he can see what he saying. Not just saying it. Hope that was helpful. And one more thing don't stress yourself out, there can always be someone better.:)
- wild girl is spamming. O: and maybe or maybe not but you need to make an effort if you like him. he might be thinking the same.. it takes two to tango, and he cant be the only one dancing.
- He's probably just busy. Or he's waiting to see how long it takes before you call him. I'd just call to say hi and see how he acts.
- Wow congrats on the new guy!! There are a few things I think you have to take into account before you go into panic mode. His age, his life style, his home situation, and his job situation. Regardless of anything if you feel like giving him a call, do it!!! call him up and just make small talk nothing major, keep it light an breezy. You two might also chat on-line a bit much so he might not feel like he does not have much to say ( that's the catch 22 with texting and on-line chatting... not much to say at the end of the day makes it hard to miss someone). *(Please do not be sad if the conversation is not your usual 45 min.) There is a possibility he will just spill it why he has not called you or what ever. Don't hit freak out mode though, please do not do the "WHY HAVE YOU NOT CALLED ME" thing. You two are still getting to know each other and maybe there are some things going on that your not aware of yet. As far as him loosing interest in you that's a tough one you can kinda of get the feeling if he is or not by the on-line chat messages. Do you feel like he has changed towards you? (ask your self this question when your calm and in a good frame of mind sometimes we are our own worst enemy) Patience is good, be a lady at all times, take pride in yourself and have some dignity. Good luck
- You will never know until you talk to him and see how he feels. so do call
