URGENT please,SERIOUS HELP NEEDED!! its way too long,i know, but i really need Ur sincere advice and help !?

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1. ain't no one gonna read all that sorry
2. wow that is such a long story. i stopped after one sentence. lol
3. I didn't even read it... too long...
4. I didn't read it all. I stopped at your age!
5. Ok whoa! Can you make this shorter? To me he sounds like a player who is not ready to settle down yet so he comes up with such a RIDICULOUS lie so he can step out of your life
6. It seems like he's being pulled in 2 directions. Does he have strong feelings for you? - it seems like it, but the objections of his family are a stronger influence on him. To be frank, nothing in what you've said indicated that he would stand up to his family to be with you, so I think in that situation you have to reluctantly move on.
7. put it like this u need to find someone better and stop makin questions so long thanks
8. i couldn't finish it. but halfway through i decided you're going through a bunch of shit you don't need to put up with. There are more people in the world than only him. you're going to need to move on. (And by the way, if you want a clear answer, cut your story down into tenths and then post it)
9. he never loved you he used you ( your religion doesn't favor pre-marital sex) so customs and family values aren't the real reason he may have already been promised to another long before he met you don't believe anything that he tells you it'll all be lies he's isn't nice he got what he wanted and now he thinks that your not good enough but in truth your better than him your feeling are true just be more careful with the next guy
10. I think that he may have loved you but that it doesn't really matter. My best friend in high school and i were in love for a very long time. But I wasn't supposed to date somebody outside of my religion. So we remained friends. He had girlfriends (and that hurt me alot) but I thought that we could just be friends and that eventually we would end up together. So for four years we continued as just friends, but more than friends. Before I went away to college I told him I couldn't ever talk to him again. I thought that I was doing the best thing for both of us. He had a serious girlfriend, and I was leaving for school. After telling him that, he wanted to run away and get married that night (i was only seventeen). Eventually I ended up standing my ground. The next year I was home for the summer and we met up and started dating. It was still too much. We just couldn't give each other the commitment that we needed. I would say that even though your situation is a lot different, that you need to just let him go, whether he loved you or not. It will hurt if you do it, but if you continue to hold on, thinking that some how you will be able to change what is (him not being able to be in a love-marriage) then it will just hurt SO MUCH MORE in the long run.
11. wow hun that was long.. well im a 18 year old female, and my advice to you is that you just need to leave him.. it sounds like he is just using you.. and keep ing in touch to not completely lose you!! but that may not be the case im just saying based on what i now know.. if i were you i would just let him go, hes playing head games!! and with his family it doesnt matter.. my boyfriend is albanian an hes not allowed to date outside, but he is and were planning on gettin married.. his famil would get over it.. i wouldnt waste my time on him i would just go get another guy thats in to you and you can have a better life with.. and get married!!!!!!! it sounds like an excuse of his?!?!?dont deal with all that stress.. its too much i know you love him but if you stay with him you will be in this same position for the rest of your life... on and off and still unmarried probley without kids is that what you want.. you can email me at elletfreshy15@yahoo.com if your needing more advice..its a very old email adrress but i use it for this.. have a nice day i hope this helped..
12. It sounds like you love him more than he loves you. I am tryn to figure out if he has to be in an arranged relationship because of your religion. I know you don't want ot hear it, if this is the case then he will never go against his family. He prob. loves you, but there are too many obsticales in the way of your relationship. Its best to let the whole thing rest. If it is meant to be you will be together. Don't force it youll only push him away. try ignoring him without any contact. If he want s you he will miss you and come find way for you to be togeher. Hope that helps.
13. Please, whatever you do, don't hold nothing back, I'm sure there are more details that were left out. Anyway, I feel bad for you and no one should have to go through what you did. Having said that, use this as a learning experience for the future. Move on and forget him. Let me say that again, MOVE ON AND FORGET HIM. He had an agenda and worked it for all he wanted, plain and simple. Good luck!