please,urgent help needed!sorry,for the question being way too long,BUT i need sincere advice :) please HELP?

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1. Sorry, that is way to long for me to read but good luck.
2. your good in bed and he has some feelings for you. he is not having any emotional feelings with anyone else so you provide all his needs, sucker. he will never want you for more than sex so lose the jerk and get with a real man, like one with a heart that isn't a mommas boy and can make his own decisions.
3. He never really loved you, you jumped into conclusions too quickly, and he felt pressure to get into a serious commitment. You probably talk too much too. The guy is gone, let him go and don't question his feelings. Actions should be better than words for you at this point.
4. You give a long account of what happened, but my reply is simple. Dump him and keep the jewelry. Mind games and promises don't mix. Find someone else. Move on.
5. That sure was long. I would let him go. Yes he probably loves you but will not go against his families wishes. This will be a never ending battle with you and you are wasting your time with him. Let him go and find someone that will openly love you.
6. forget about him ,move on
7. When someone doesn't return calls then it is time for you to let go, yes it hurts but you can't force someone to do what you want without paying a large price. You may eventually get your way and get him but you will live to regret it. It is over, move on, respect yourself and stop crawling to this guy. Remember the good times and get on with the rest of your life.
8. If he will not stand up to his family and insist they accept you, then move on.
9. You need to seriously leave this man and stop wasting YOUR time. Life is too short to be waiting around for someone to return your love and affection . He is obviously NOT going marry you and is using his family (that was tragic) as an excuse. Though he probably has many . Really, look elsewhere for someone that will make you feel happy. Then having a relationship isn't work, it just happens . Good Luck !!
10. I can only advise you to shorten your question and get to the point. People wont read all that. Sorry.
11. Love isn't supposed to hurt and each person loves in their own way, the best way that they know how. I think it all depends on what all you feel like dealing with. I personally would leave him alone and move on. It's just too much drama. He is playing with you emotions. If it has to do with what happened to his relative, then he needs to take time to work through that. If he is a grown man, then what difference does it make about what his family thinks? Is that a cultural thing, b/c then I guess I would understand..... At least he is being honest with you and letting you know that he can not commit to you. He knows that you probably want more out of the relationship than just that. Don't settle for less in the relationship with him. He is basically telling you to accept what he can give you or move on. Do you like those terms? He is not in the relaitonship with himself, your feelings matter too. I hope he realizes this. Based on everything, him saying that it was just lust, to his family dictating your relationship, I would just let him go, allow myself to morn the loss of what you 2 had together and search for a new love. You know what you really need to do. It's just a matter of having the strength and courage to actually do it. If you have to question that much of what you have with him, then that should tell you something right there. Like I said in the beginning, "love is not supposed to hurt." It can be trying at times, but it really shouldn't hurt. I wish you the best.