make/break relationship !! ..SERIOUS HELP needed,sorry for the long-est question :( ..but SINCERE ADVICE, ASAP

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1. I think you should leave this man alone. If he loved you, he would have married you. Love is stronger than pride. Love supercedes everything and conquers all. Find someone that truly loves you and move on. Don't ever let a man use you again.
2. this really is long.
3. it was long, but here is my answer I think he obviously loves you, but it sounds like his family is keeping him from being in a commitment with you because they dont want you to get hurt or him. he needs to sit down with his family and tell them that he really loves you or it will be like this forever. this sounds like Romeo and juliet btw
4. I am not familiar with your culture and the marriage/love thing, but what I do know is that if you truly love someone, then you would do anything for them and want to be with them regardless of any other situation. I would say that he probably thought that things were getting too serious (you're both very young still) and isn't ready for commitment. . . something that seems to happen with many, many guys, regardless of ethnicity or culture. Take the opportunity to date others and find out what is truly important to you in a relationship; pick out the good traits and weed out the bad.
5. Ok huge question but I think i got it. There are two paths in this outcome. You can have a relationship that you know will amount to nothing. You say he has no commitment but he still loves you. He seems to have a bit of a commitment because he hasn't cheated on you and you both seem to be single at the moment. So on some level there is commitment. Thus the other road is a more smoother one. You can leave him, fall out of love for him and replace him with someone who would want to marry you. Unless you plan on never getting married you need to realize that even though he loves you he cannot be with you. There is no doubt in my mind that he loves you. But its what you are looking for thats in the best interest. Ask yourself this: would you want a relationship that would only last say 5 more years or during those 5 years fall in love again, get married and start a family? Tell him straight out: I still love you but if you cannot commit to me as a wife then I will build a wall around my heart and look for someone to knock it down. (remember this is just my advice) Or you can do the whole get him jealous thing and make him want you more and more by finding another man better then him in a few different ways. But it all ends with him not being able to commit to you. It is your choice. Good luck.
6. Sweet heart, you are definitely over thinking this! You are young! you should be enjoying life at your age, you only get one chance at it! Enjoy your girl friends. You live in America I presume! If that is the truth, you are American. I understand about the family stuff. My family did it to me... I had to be with an Italian, Catholic, etc... This is not serious, but I know it is to you right now. Look, I presume you are in college, enjoy college, they will be the best years of your life. Don't go through them unwillingly. Enjoy life! Please. Life is so simple... If this happens, then that happens! At the end of the day, it really isn't much more than that. Keep it simple honey! Keep it light, if things get heated, go with your ethics... If you want, protect yourself. Play it smart, but be in control. Best wishes to you, Nrocco
7. hi sweetie, first up, this is the LONGEST question i've encountered here , it shows how much you love him . .am sorry to hear ur heartbroken . . now, am not really sure but i think he has been cheating on you , , so sorry to tell u this but this is what i feel from a guys point of view , , guys act like this when they feel guilty or threatened . . i wish u guys had mentioned ur age so i could have come to a conclusion on how matured u guys are . . but listen, u should be knowing the depth of ur relationship , , all i wanna say is, there's a good chance that this guy was lusting for you 'cos at one point of time he admitted it,thinking that ur cool with it but when u got pissed off at him he realised u were just guessing & that he made a mistake by making such a blunt admission . . then he got concerned whether u would would do something drastic n made his friend call u up to ensure u were alrite, 'cos he's been with u for a year so he's gotta be a bit responsible n ensure ur safety n well being . . my number is 09387385783 , , let me know how things shape out . . also , dont do anything stupid 'cos there are a lot of people out there who care for ur well being , , on the other hand, maybe whatever he's saying is true, , maybe he has some issues with his family . .ur in a better position than anyone to gauge it out for urself , , so peace out babe, everything happens for the best , , you'll be fine , , stay safe, , good luck ! !
8. honestly i think u shuld let him go. if he is not ready for commitment and u r then u deserve to find wat u want. it seems like he did love u and still does. otherwise he wuldnt constantly be tryn to keep in touch wit u and always askin about u. he is confused. he doesnt kno wat to do becuz he doesnt want to go against his family yet he wants to b wit u but doesnt want to hurt u by not givin u commitment. i think u two shud end it and remain good friends and maybe if he decides one day that he can commit to u regardless of wat his family thinks then u 2 could get back on those terms if u havent already met sum1. but no u shudnt wait for him anymore. u have waited long enough. sumtimes u have to forget wat u feel and rememba wat u deserve.
9. Hmmm...it sounds like he is unsure a little himself. I think the whole thing with his family not wanting him to get married is a bunch of bullsh*t. I understand that his family is upset but i dont think that would make him mad at you. Maybe he felt like you were smothering him by calling him alot. I know you probably wanted to talk to him alot because you love him and everything, but guys sometimes get scared by feeling smothered. Did you guys talk about marriage or was he the one to bring up the subject. If you guys talked about it maybe he thought about it and realized you guys were moving to fast or getting to serious. I am not sayin you did anything wrong i am just sayin that maybe he felt like you are making him take the relationship to the next step when he is not ready. I think you should not call him for a couple of days to a week ( he will notice you are not calling) and then call or text him how you feel. If he doesnt respond or call back then he is either annoyed by everything or very confused. Just be patient if he loves you he will come back!!
10. What you need to do is to live your life. He has already told you numerious times that he is not willing to commit to you, but also want's his cake and eat it too.....he wants to make sure that he can feel like he come and be with you any time he wants to, but is free to leave when ever he feels like it, that if someone "better" comes along he is free to pursue her, and that he will never be the bad guy cause you are the one that knew he was not willing to commit to you......etc. First, you need to stop believing that the relationship will eventually go somewhere.......it won't. It will only cause you more pain. Second, you need to be able to end the relationship. If you still want to keep a "Friendship" with him, then make sure it is only a email one, so you won't physically get yourself in trouble, and also so you are not letting yourself be fooled anymore with his sweet talk and your emotions. Third, you need to give yourself time to heal over the relationship. You have emotionally invested allot into this relationship, and are hurting from his lack of wanting to pursue the relationship. Fourth, you need to find someone that is truely worth what you have to offer, that is willing to love and commit to you and your relationship.....and that will love and value you, not just lust after you when it is convient for him. I know it is hard to face it, and to move on, but you will be better and stronger for it.......good luck.