hey pls mates, i need SERIOUS HELP..sorry for a long question !! BUT SINCERE ADVICE NEEDED ASAP !!?

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1. I am so sorry I didn't read all of it.......I am indian too.......... I kinda have the same problem Your problem is not that unusual . It is very often seen among Indian couples whose families are deeply rooted in tradition and customs .Judging by the manner of his behavior towards you , he still loves you but he cant admit it because he knows he cant marry you and then letting you go would be harder than it is right now . The only reason he said that he was lusting after you was just so you would break all ties with him ... for both your sakes . I see only 2 solutions to this problem and both are at the either extremes . If you cant accept the fact that he is'nt ready to go against his parents wishes , then you just have to let him go and forget about the whole thing . Or if you still want him in your life , you should ask your parents or relatives to meet with his parents to discuss about marriage , that way his family would'nt just disregard your relationship and it would'nt technically be a love marriage if his parents accept . These seem to be the 2 best possible options for you to consider . Good luck and don't give up hope !!!
2. He told you the truth - all he really wanted was to have sex with you. He does not desire a real relationship. Throw this fish back, and cast your net again.
3. You are in India? Girl, there are over a billion fish in that pond! Let this one go and find another! You two have already damaged the foundation that you are planning to build your WHOLE life on! Don't continue. Jehovah Jireh provides all I need.
4. wow you have a lot of questions going through your mind. You gave at the end a lot of options and I wonder which one you feel most strongly about. weighing the pros and cons in a relationship is a delicate balance and it seems as though for this relationship you are still processing a lot of the feeling you're having. That's okay, feelings take awhile to grow and to be strong with them. My only advice is to either wait it out and truly realize how you feel about him and your relationship with him, or follow the option that you feel strongest about right now. Remember that a relationship grows and should continue to grow, it's important to keep communicating. Talk with him, yourself and if you feel comfortable also talk to someone you trust about all of your strong emotions. Good luck, deep down you know the answer it's about being brave and following your heart!
5. That was probably the longest question ever posted on here. After reading your entire passage - it seems to me there is a lot of questions, distrust and insecurity going on. These things dont define a relationship. If your both questioning it - then its not meant to be. I am indian also so I can understand some of where the family role plays a part. I know indian parents ideally want their kids to marry someone they choose for them but times have changed. My parents tried to introduce me to other indian guys that I did not like - finally I just told them that they need to let me choose who I w ant to spend my life with. Its not fair to pick someone for me. Lots of arranged marriages work and lots of love marriages work. It seem to me that he is really trying to make his family happy and that is ok. Either you two are meant to be together or your not. Its hard to "just be friends" after you have confessd your love for one another. He might be playing mind games with you and that is why he's having his friend call you and check in. I would say just forget about him. If he really, truely loved you and wanted to be with you he would make his family understand. It's his life in the end. Do you want to be with someone who can't decide what they want? What if in the future he turns his back on you and runs back to his family if he were to go against them now. PLUS if you guys get married without his family's approval it will just cause tensions later. Best to break free now and start fresh with someone new. Love and relationships are hard and they require work from BOTH sides. Good luck!
6. He is using you for your body. I am sorry to give that info to you. No relationship would last that "no commitment" Stop Texting him stop speaking to him. I know you love him. That is very obvious. You are young yet and would recover a loss as this. Treat it like he died. Morn the relationship and move on. You will find some one for you if that is what is destined. Be happy with your instincts. They are there for a reason.
7. This guy obviously likes you at first..he’s into you, yes but not in love that is why leaving you like nothing happened was easy. He doesn’t want to get involve with you seriously. Is he the playboy type? Then, he’s nervous of a serious relationship. If not, he’s nervous about what he feels whenever he’s near you. Giving you the principles about marriage-love in their family could be one of the reason but then it is a weak one..maybe you are being too forward to him. Guys feel a bit weird about forward girls, thus they abuse this weakness over them. Because they know that a girl could be waiting for them. Boost their egos too. Try to avoid him. Do the same things that he has done to you. Give him a good karma..let’s see if he runs after you..if he would, then it means he can’t live w/o you..but if theres no reaction at all..forget him, he’s not worth it..*wink*
8. I think he cares about you but wow what games he plays, you seem like a very good person and I think it's awful how he is playing these games with you, stop talking him to him for a while and what I mean by a while is a few weeks and see if he continues to call or leave messages, if he tries real hard to see or talk to you than he might really want to be with you, but you should leave him hanging a while, personally I think he is a jerk, you deserve so much better than this. Best of luck
9. Sweetheart, there are certain things you need to have in your mind. Firstly, everything but everything is happening for a reason. Secondly, when we feel blocked, then we can not decide and see clearly; therefor, it ' s time to follow our intuition. If you can, and just for a sec, take some distance from the whole situation and try to look on that as a stranger, then may be you ll see outcomes that you haven't seen before.About the timing thing you asked (ie why it took him so long ? etc), remember that each one of us needs different time frames to act or talk or decide or realise... (trust me on that). I know that i m not giving a super straight-forward answer and that is only because, you are the only person on earth that can deal with that situation and has the answers (even if you haven't got them now, they will come to you). However, what i can tell you for sure, is that the criteria of what is love, where it starts and stop... that differs again for all of us. U might believe that love worths dying for it. Some one else not.. I count good number of winters and summers on my back and up to now life has proved to me that if something is real then time will reveal it.. ~~but yes, waiting process can be painful (still though, even that journey has its joyfull and learning moments). Keep your heart pure.. and never feel alone x
10. Hi, I know I dont know you but I'll be really sincere to what I say.At this moment I am with my wife now and suddenly found your questions and we read everything you said.what we judged is that you must leave the guy you loved and you should also feel the way he does.I mean you should feel that you are not in love with him and that was just attraction.I will ask you a question. If you really love anyone then will you try to find out a solution to be each other's forever or you'll just say to end up everything?Thats all bullshit.What he said is that due to family problems he can't get married to you.Thats not true. Let me tell you about myself.I just got married 3 weeks back.That was a love marriage.I'm from Pakistan and my wife is British.Trust me it was totally impossible for her parents to accept me to be her husband because her family had problems in the past with Pakistani's and decided that never ever they are gonna make any kind of relation with Pakistani's as they are from a different caste basically.But I'm thankful to God that we just got married in front of her parents.Because our love was true.Usually people say that there is no true love in this world and its all useless.But true love really exists.I hope you understand what exactly I mean to say. Now he is just proving that he is a nice guy and is doing all this because he loves you and doesn't want to hurt you later on.But the truth is that he is gradually, technically and very smartly leaving you .I dont know what you think but this is what we think.I wish whatever is suitable for you ,you get it.