NEED SINCERE ADVICE !! ASAP , sorry for a long question, but SERIOUS HELP is needed !! PLEASE,PLEASE,?

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1. Sorry but I read then I forgot what the heck was going on.... GOOD LUCK with it!
2. hi. i see you are heart broken..i think you need to find a real man. not some one who will play your feeling in the way he has. they are out there go find him.. goog luck. and be bleesed god will help if you belive just ask..
3. wow that was long.... yes he did love you...or does love you but right now he's torn...choose his families wishes or his own... i'd back away and give him time to sort out his feelings and thoughts.... he's a grown man and has to decide what he wants to do with his own life....you can't force him to choose you and to make a life with you... if its meant to be, it'll be........but for now you need to go on with your own life....
4. I would just leave him alone. Dam what along story.
5. It seems obvious to me that he extremely fearful of any kind of marriage or long-term commitment. I think you have made the best effort you could to stay in contact with him, but he is not interested. Please protect your well-being by grieving the end of this relationship and work hard to move on from him. Sorry that my answer is not as in-depth as your description of your situation, but I think a to-the-point reply best suits this situation. I wish you well.
6. You've already asked this question. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!
7. let it go. when someone tells you why they don't want to be with you let them go. even if you don't agree just move on as i'm sure anyone else would. there is too much love and life to be lived hoping and praying the one you think you love will love you back. let go. all you'll ever get from this person is a lot of headaches and heart ache. leave him be and go on with your life. apparently he didn't know your were as special as you thought he was. move on. kick is butt to the curb and look for the man that is right for you. you owe it to yourself to love yourself first. to the curb baby, to the curb.
8. I can see how you'd be upset and seeking advice. Your relationship with him keeps going up and down. I know in your culture, family is so important and getting their approval is important too. I know that love marriages aren't always accepted and your guy wants to do what is best for him and his family. It seems like when you're together he's never comfortable and when he's not with you, then he can't completely break off but he's not willing to make a serious relationship or commitment to you. My question to you is how long can you live with that? Do you want to be his mistress or his wife? He can't promise you forever because he doesn't know if he can give that to you. However unfortunate it may be, the family shouldn't judge all relationships on the one love marriage that went wrong. Arranged marriages can end in murder too when the man just wants the woman's dowry. This is a very tough situation and it gets complicated because of your feelings for him. But he's not willing to make a commitment or be in a serious relationship with you. I would let him figure out what he needs or wants to do and tell him to stick with that decision because you're not a roller coaster than will keep going up and down. You care about him but you also care about yourself and want someone who is going to not let fear rule their life.
9. I lost interest after the first few paragraphs, I suggest move on, if he loves you he will be begging you back!
10. This is not true love, if it was he would put you first. Sounds to me like total lust and in that he disrespects you. I would let him go and sooner or later you will find your soulmate. Relationships like these teach us many lessons which we can use in future relationships. I hope this helps and sorry if I have burst your bubble.
11. It sounds to me that your love for him may be displaced. Real love doesn't come with strings attached. Marriage is a partnership and it takes so much more than love to make one work. If you were genuinely his friend you would understand and respect how and why he feels the way he does. If your feelings for him were/are true it should not matter if he was sincere as long as you know that you were. If he can just stop talking to you and not feel bad then you and he are not on the same page, you are so young, so try to be a good friend to him and if you become someone he can not live without, then he will do what you want. Get yourself together and give the emotional part of your relationship with this man time to get where you want it to go.
12. The truth might hurt you, but I have gone passed the same situation when I was younger. The truth is: Girls and boys are different. Women are emotional. When they fall for a guy and develop sexual relationship with that guy they fall in love. They get emotional. Men are different. They can have sex, have intimacy and not love the woman they are with. It's so common and it's the truth. He is making excuses, the problem is not his family. The problem is he wants to have sex, he wants to play with as many women as possible. You were offering it to him in the name of Love and Relationship and he took you for granted because he has needs. The first time he broke up with you in the name of "Family issues" he found another girl to have sex with who at the time was more attractive than you to him, Then when he called you again and said he is now ready is because the other girl broke up with him. Then he found another one and started giving you cold shoulder. Now he thinks you are a headache, that's why it took him 5 days on Orkut to respond. He wants to have you for the time he has no body, so that he never is alone, and also use you as his confidence booster, when he needs some confidence, just to make sure somebody loves him. But at the same time, he thinks you want relationship and commitment and marriage and so you could be a headache for him. Now the friend who is trying to resolve your relationship problems: He wants to sleep with you, your boyfriend has already told him that you are good in bed, and the friend wants to have a go, as your boyfriend is not interested in you at the moment. So please don't fall for that. I was in the same situation and one day my boyfriend's friend wanted to rape me, and I cried and said how dare you are, I loved my boyfriend that's why I slept with him, that doesn't give you the right to sleep with me. You tricked me, and then the guy said that my so-called boyfriend has told him stories about us, and he wanted to give it a try. Also the "Committed thing on orkut that appeared when you broke up" is because your boyfriend's new girlfriend has asked him to do so, ,,,, I'm sorry but we are all the same and the rule is always the same. Pack up your bags, stop being emotional, open your arms, and find someone who loves you and treats you well. But I know you now want revenge?! or want to win him back, but believe me with this guy and his friends: Waste of time.
13. The guy is playing you. From what you wrote, all he wants is a physical relationship and refuses to commit to you, using his family as an excuse. I think you should ignore him, when his friend calls you tell the friend that you're just fine and end the conversation, don't message the guy, don't call, email or "okrut" (whatever that is) - just LET HIM BE. You deserve someone who WILL commit to you and not just someone who wants to have sex with you.
14. Just give me a few hours to read this and figure out what you are saying and then I'll get back to you.