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Okay here's the skinny: I met what seems to be a great guy online (still have to get to know him) and we chatted for a little over a month via. IM. On Friday we started talking on the phone, things went really well. On Sunday he sent me a text saying "Good Morning" I text him back and we text each other a couple more times when I decided to just call him if we were going to have a conversation. He didn't answer, so I text him back, feel free to call me if you get a chance later. A couple hours later, he sent a text just saying he was running around all day, and he will call me when he gets home... But, he never called. Tuesday I sent him a short but sweet text just saying: I hope you had a great day. NOW... we are suppose to have a date on Friday night (no real plans but it was mentioned last Friday while we were talking.) I have already decided I will not call/text until he calls or text me. But what should I be thinking? Any advice on this one guys or gals? I'm 24, he's 31. I couldn't fit this part in: so after my text on Tuesday evening. Nothing so far from his side. The only thing I can think of is he is having some challenges with his brother and is a bit busy at work. But no reason to not quickly text someone back. Esp. when he said he would call me Sunday evening. Part of me says, let it go don't worry about it. But the other part still would like to meet him. With the fact that we have no definate plans, I really can't get mad about that, if it doesn't happen. Why do guys OR girls do this stuff? I think part of me just wants the truth, is he not interested? If not then why did he text me after our phone conversation. Obviously he felt our phone conversation went well also. So I don't know, but what do ya'll think?
Public Comments
- I know how you feel. It can be tough when you don't know what the other person is doing or even wants, and the text/IM situations can be especially difficult. He is probably into you, but maybe he's just busy, or preoccupied. If he didn't call you back though, I would say that maybe you should leave everything as is. Personally, I wouldn't call him, I mean if he can't take two minute to call or text you back, well maybe that is an issue. I've been in a similar situation and I was always the one that would make the effort and call or text, and honestly, I should have taken it as a sign that things weren't right. Now, im not saying this is what your situation signifies, im just telling you what happened to me. Anyways, I would agree with you on your decision not to contact him. Maybe he just needs some time to himself, besides, absense makes the heart grow fonder, and maybe you not being so available will remind him of what he has in your 'relationship'. Just give it some time, and hopefully he will call you back soon. Also, be carefull, don't pour heart so much into this, that you could get your heart broken. I made that mistake once, and I wouldn't wish that feeling upon anyone. If things don't work out, be prepared to just walk away. You may have heard this song but if you listen to Keyshia Cole's song, "Let it go" the chorus actually makes sense, "if he isn't gonna treat you right, just let it go and its not where hes at, its where he wants to be". http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QAgRgy1I8hg Anyways, I hope everything works out for you. :)
