Mature adults only - I need advice. I met a guy online that I found really cool. After we met once, he?

wrote me saying that he found me really attractive but because i wasn't "free and clear" from my x (we brought it down a notch to just date) he didn't want to see me. He said he didn't want to take a chance on seeing anyone and have the girl end up going back to the x. So I explained to him that as of the other day, my x and I are through. We aren't even dating now and that he had left the country to "find himself". (What kind of BS is that??!!) Find himself? I shouldn't given him a mirror. Sorry, a tangent, anyway, so this guy said that he wanted to think about it and then let me know. I told him that was fine and he knew how to get in touch with me if he was interested. Now, here's the question ... it's only been 3 days and I am really eager to hear from him. Although I think I know the answer to this question, would it be bad if I went ahead and either emailed, text, or called him or should I wait on him?? By the way, he's 36 and I'm 31.

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1. I'd call him one last time and try to get an answer, but I would be wary if I were you, because it could be some sort of an excuse. When you do talk to him, don't talk with your emotion. If he's still flakey and trying to avoid, just be like "I gave you what you wanted and now you're still rejecting me? Please tell me what's going on."
2. Just wait it out.. see what happens.
3. Move along, he sounds like a flake.
4. go a head give him a call......but just one if you don't get the right feeling from that drop it and moove on
5. Mature kids only
6. I can understand your eagerness however; I think you should wait for the a few more days. If he doesn't call you then go for it. If you get a negative comment then you know that he just does not want a relationship. Good luck.
7. you go right ahead,,,,, do all 3,,,, whats wrong with that,,, u take the lead ,,
8. I'd say attempt one form of contact. Anyways, if he happens to answer, then hint towards the mission behind your call, if not, then leave him alone and move on.
9. honestly... if a guy thinks like that he doesnt deserve you, but.... let him make call or whatever first or else you'll seem a little despreate or clingy.
10. He's a smart guy, because he's learned what I have learned (the hard way, in my case). When a girl goes on and on about how much of a jerk her ex is, she's not over him. It doesn't mean you two are still seeing each other, it doesn't mean you're definitely getting back together, etc., etc., but if you're still talking about him (even, and maybe even especially, if it's bad stuff), you're not over him. And this guy is smart enough to know that. I got involved with a girl in exactly this situation. Her ex was a jerk, had even hit her. She told me all these endless stories about how much of a jerk he was, how great I was, how she was so glad she found someone that treated her so well, blah blah blah. I loved her so much I would have married her in a second. The ex-bf worked on a ship 6 months out of the year. He comes back, she dumps me and gets back with him. Never again. Now, when I hear a girl going on and on about an ex, I just say to my self "next!". So, to answer your question. No, don't email this guy. And my advice is, get over the ex... and don't talk about him anymore.
11. I don't think it would be a bad idea. Those problems with seeming 'too eager' went out with your 24th birthday. You're an adult, so is he, tell him your interested and act on it. At the very least you'll learn from the experience, and in the end, if you end up a little more wise each day, is a knockback really that bad?
12. Just go for it. If he doesn't respond, then at least you will know. Don't feel down on yourself, I have had many a-failed online dating "events". If he actually needed to leave the country to "find" himself, he must really be a piece of work. I needed to find myself a few years ago, and did so with some deep thinking and reorganization of my priorities. I did this all withing the confines on my house, meanwhile still going to work every day. If you really want to hear from him, out yourself out there and see if he responds. What have you got to lose?
13. I would wait and how do you know that he doesn't have a girl somewhere else. You need to be careful because it happens trust me I am the other girl. No not for your man mine just split because of a women on the internet so just be careful with you heart and feelings because they just might be doing the same. If you really like him email otherwise it seems he has you on a string so be careful.
14. A man when trully in love is willing to take a chance at anything. As long as you are not married yet and I like you a lot, no barrier can keep me out. You have just escaped from someone who is not sure of himself and here comes another who at his age is still single and still unsure? Its either he is married or he is gay or both. Who is he to keep you waiting before he decide? Well its up to you if you still want to try your luck in him. At my age and experience, his last words to you means, "no, not interested". Just like when you are applying for a job, "We'll call you, don't call us". Good luck!
15. If you thinks he's worth waiting for I'd give it the 3 day rule. If you don't see or hear from him in three days consider it done. It's extremely strange the x was the reason he didn't want to get involved- the x is gone and he isn't jumping at the chance. If you call too soon it'll sound desperate and that would suck. Third day comes call email or text no reaction= it's over, positive reply means your good