I need some detailed answers about online dating: read before answering?

I'm a male college student, and I have been considering online dating recently. There seems to be nobody in my area who meets my moral standards or shares my interests. Maybe it's because I'm too serious (both about life in general and about relationships in particular), but there seems to be nobody who is morally or personally compatible with me. Therefore, I think I will try out online dating. I read about OKCupid and eHarmony, which are both free matchmaking sites. Are either of these a good idea for someone who is an intellectual, Christian, extremely conservative, looking for long-term relationships EXCLUSIVELY, and not flirty or looking for someone flirty? Also, it probably doesn't matter...but I'm 19. Even so, like I said, I'm having problems. It's not that I'm unattractive (TONS of girls think I'm "cute" or "adorable"), I'm not out of shape (I get plenty of activity), and I am not some freak (I have plenty of friends). That said, please give me some advice!

Public Comments

1. online dating can b dangerous though, & its not da same. but i guess wit ur kind of interests it wuld b da best
2. Never heard of OKCupid, but eHarmony is absolutely NOT free. In fact, it's one of the more expensive ones out there. However, there are plenty of Christian singles sites out there. Just google "Christian Singles" and you'll find TONS. Also, try meeting someone at your church.
3. I would say give it a shot, but you never know how truthful the people are being about themselves on there profiles online. But, you never know if someone is being truthful with you in person either. I don't see the problem with trying it.
4. There is nothing wrong with using online dating services. Been there, done that. Just be aware of the costs that may be involved to use their full service. When you use it though, make sure you sell yourself, put all the good points that you have out there, and depending on your own honesty, you may mention some of your bad points so they see that you too are human. In the what you are looking for section, be honest. You can be as specific as you like, but it will just narrow down those you can find if you do the searching, while those who don't fit it might not contact you if you interest them. Good luck
5. ok. first off, you're 19. You have plenty of time. Chances are in this day and age, you won't find someone that is still a virgin, either because it was their choice or because of rape (1in4women). So you'll need to learn to forgive that. Nobody around you're age will want a long-term-marriage demanding boyfriend. (i'm not trying to be mean, but i'm being honest) I'm 23 and i've alread been married and divorced and in another rocky relationship. don't rush it. i believe that if things are meant to be, they'll happen, but only when they're supposed to. Finish school, focus on getting a career, when love is supposed to happen for you it will. But there's nothing wrong with dating a few women either. it will make you a better man. i don't mean sleep with them, but short-term dating helps men understand women, what they want/need and appreciate. set your boundaries firmly with who you're dating though, and if they can't appreciate your morals they're not a very good person to begin with. but learn from everything you do. it will help guide you to the 'right one' i'm sure you'll find her. Also, if you're having trouble finding real friends that meet your moral standards, look online for those, or join social groups in your area. but don't go looking for 'the' female, go looking for friendships and people that can fill the void of not having someone to relate to.