Um girl advice??
Ok I'm gonna get hounded like a dog here, but anyway see my g/f and I broke up awhile ago and while I got over it I haven't dated anyone else. So he surprised me and signed me up for a free trial at match.com. Anyway I was kinda mad but checked it out, and emailed this girl. Long story short, we've been talking through email only since like Oct 21st. We've sent like almost 2 dozen emails so far...we've flirted a bit. I sent her a pic of me in a hula skirt as a joke cuz I was going to Hawaii and she's all "no seriously, nice bod." And just other stuff here n there. Also I gave her my cell and she game me hers. I'm not sure if she wants me to take a new step or not you know? She did mention she believes guys should make the first move. But when I gave her my cell (about 5 or 6 email in) I also mentioned meeting up if she wanted...but she just gave me her cell and didnt mention the other thing. Maybe she want me to take initiative and call her and ask that way? Or is she not into me?
Public Comments
- just call her and see how it goes!!!
- yeah go for it! I would recommend meeting her in a public place though since you don't really know her yet just to be safe :)
- online dating isn't good it usually fails miserably
- I would call her before you go meet up with her . She could be a 75 year old man living in the Phillapines for all you know .
- Sounds like shes into you. Why dont you try calling her up and seeing if she would like to meet you somewhere. Make is casual at first and see where is goes from there.
- Call her up.
- just wait it out and mention the question again later on when she gets to know you better
- Haha...she's sitting around wondering why you haven't called her yet!! Get on it!
- tell her you would like to meet but call her and tell her. and try not to do the email thing ne more you cant tell how a person feels when you cant hear there voice
- You sound like you might be a little retarded. Do you ride the short bus?
- Take the initiative. The WELL PLANNED initiative. Figure out what you're going to do, have the tickets (or whatever is involved) ready ahead of time, make it a nice, easy afternoon where there's no running around or craziness. Gals like guys who got it together. Own the day, man...confidence is the sexiest thing out there. -LD
- Its kind of early to mention a meet up if you haven't even talked on the phone yet. That may have put her off. Just give her a call and go from there.
- Try it, make a move. In this society everything is backwards. It is anything goes. The guys or the girls could ask the significant other out.
- If she gave you her number thsn she is into you.call her, she is likely waiting for you to do so. See if you all can go to a movie or something.
- dont go into online dating for all u kno u could be talking to an old perverted man just stick to non internet dating
- Your definatly righ she wants YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOUUUUU TO TAKE THE INITITIVE!!!!! Just play your cards right thts all you have to do and you got her eatin out the palm of your hand because women like men with initiative (also she might be testing you)
- Well, before you call her up, go over your conversations and make sure that you're geting the right kind of vibe from her. Then, if it feels right, go ahead and call her up! I really can't tell if she's into you or not from the information you've given me; if you maybe told me what you guys talked about and how you talked about it, I could help.
- First rule, always go with your gut feeling. Second if you wait and they wait, you all wait. Just do it, you wont die. I would always rather get it over with and find out what the next step might be, waiting is just a waste of time. Good luck, new relationships are wonderful!
- she is probably just waiting for you to call her.you should just call her and say how are you doing and ask about her and then ask if and where she wants to meet up at.
- If you're sure she's real and not a player, give her a call. Talk to her and get an idea of how she feels and then ask her. Good luck.
- for sure call her a few times to chat before deciding whether to meet in real life. i'm sure she is waiting for you to make the first call. if the calls go well then suggest again to meet in person at a nice public place in the afternoon, that way she will feel safe.
- I would wait a little longer and if nothing shows she's intrested than don't ask her or if it does show that she is intrested ask her. If you want to risk it go for it, because you never know if it might turn out great.
- She is cautiously into you. I would give her a phone call and see what she says, if she continues to avoid meeting you in person I would end the relationship or at the least state clearly (and mean it) that it is only a friendship...stop flirting. It sounds to me that she is having fun talking to you and flirting but when it comes down to the crunch she is nervous and unsure about meeting up. We all like to think the best of people but no one can help showing apprehension about a relationship started online. Give her a call and go from there- maybe she is just an online friend and nothing more; there is nothing wrong with that! Good luck!
- Duh, shes into you, but the whole meeting thing can be a VERY scary thing to girls. Especially when they have no idea who they are meeting, but if you want to ask her out obviously she wants you to do it. So ask her out on the phone and see what happens from there.
- that was probably your clue
- Well... I, Myself, have done the internet thing.... It should be the guys' inisuative (sp?) to take things to the next level.. In REAL life.. but since it's the internet.. Things tend to be a bit different.... You know.. cause of the crazies out there. Girls don't know what they are getting themselves into... You know? So jus talk to her on the phone for awhile and casually bring up why she didn't meantion anything about meeting up.. let her know you're not in a hurry.. that you jus like her... and you could meet somewhere open with lots of ppl and that she may even bring a friend... or family memeber... parents maybe... IDK.. Jus don't try to go too fast with her... not just yet.. any relationship takes time to grow.
- i kind of have the same relation ship with a guy I've emailed and chatted with for months and i like him alot, but the only reason i don't hook up with him is because I'm afraid that he is a cyber-pedophile and if he sugguested that to me i would probaly never talk to him again, if you like her that bad you'd have to wait a year+ to get her full trust.(my "friend" is patient you should be too) try to understand her feelings
- maybe she's just being shy or having a twice thought about meeting someone she know on the net. people who meets in the net didn't actually meet the real person in the real world. why don't you be the guy who takes the first move, prove something to her. after you try it, you can find out if she's in to you.
- Call her! I also believe that guys should make the first move. If I was her, I would do the same thing. Good luck! :)
- i think u should just call her and first just talk to her becuz u never no how is is meeting up first is not a goood idea on my part but ya call her and well just talk u never no she may have just gave u a random number!!!
