Girls and guys- please help on some advice?

so- i went on this date with a guy that works in the same building as i do- different companies, but the same building. Well, when i got to his apt, he was completely wasted, and kept talking about how this girl i work with wants him to take her out.. .. after sitting there listening to that, and being completely uncomfortable, i just got up and left. Well, like 2 weeks later, he calls me and tells me how sorry he is- and that he wants to take me to dinner to make it up to me, and that he should have never drank before i even got there and he wants to show me the real him... mind you- he did end up taking that girl out and it didnt work, i cant help but feel that im just 2nd best. What do yall think? Should i let him take me out? It is a free dinner and you never know, or should i just forget about it?

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1. R u seriously even asking this?
2. I wouldn't go...he sounds like he has hang ups and major issues. Usually drunk talk has a lot of truth to it.
3. I'd say go for the free meal if you want but with the realization that he's a loser and not boyfriend material.
4. I think he already showed you the real him. If you give him another chance, he can probably will act decently, but that doesn't mean that all the things he said weren't true. Alcohol has a wonderful way of showing people as they really are - all the usual walls they put up to hide themselves are washed away.
5. well you should always give someone a second chance to make up for anything no matter what it is
6. Say no. If he is really into you he will chase you harder than just an invite to dinner....if he does not ask you again then you'll know that he wasn't worth it.
7. well ok, free dinner--but drive yourself to the restaurant and leave before he gets the bill!
8. I think you should go... he owes you at least that much!
9. I'd go out with him! You might as well give him another chance before you make your mind up. There might also be a good reason or at least a good story with what happened to him and the other girl. Take a chance on him and get your free dinner! Good luck :)
10. forget it, u saw the real him, if he takes u out again you will see his representative, who he would like to be, dont be fooled
11. wat do ya have to lose darlin as you say its free nosh and a night out at his expense
12. go on the free dinner and dont call him. haha what an idiot. it might be miserable but at least it will be free. you are his second choice but you are just going to use him for free food. id do it. then dont call him, ever not even 2 weeks. as a guy he will think things went well thats what we do. then he wont get a call. haha
13. I wouldn't go back out on a dinner date. He had his chance and blew it. Move on!
14. i think that you should give him another chance because everybody deserves a second chance. You know?
15. If you like him, take a chance. You will not fall in love for one dinner, but you might get some honry sex and lots of fun. He might be able to change or at least to try to be diff whenever he is around you, bu tmen usually don't change. You might get used to it though. Have fun! life's short! Bye!
16. If i like a women i dont talk about other women aside from my mother to her! If he really cared he would of asked you on another date sooner atleast i would of! At this point in the back of your mind your already second best and youll alway go back to that if you do end up dating........move on tons of guys out there that will treat you better!
17. Go to dinner with him but tell him you will meet him at the resteraunt and make it someplace that is where you order at the counter and they deliver the food to your table. Don't go to his house and don't ride in the same car. That way if it doesnt work out you can get up and leave any time you want.
18. He sounds like a real "winner". A guy usually tries his best to make a first impression, and it's only later you find out the "real him". Looks like you caught a break and a glimpse of that early on. The key word in your explanation is WASTED. You've already wasted more time on him than I would've. Move on and find somebody that is into YOU, not booze and other girls.
19. Give him a chance but it might be a good idea to see how heavily he drinks at dinner. He may truly have had a bad night, sometimes that happens to all of us, but he may also have a drinking problem and other issues too. As long as you're mature about it and keep some distance in your mind, it won't hurt to see if maybe he is a nice guy. But if you see a lot of problems appearing from him, then move on before you become too emotionally attached.
20. It sounds like that you are his second choice and so he figures that maybe since it didn't work out with the other girl, that he can try with you. If your hungry then go out and have dinner just don't do desert, if you know what I mean. Then don't answer his call next time. Or just say no thanks.
21. 2nd best? no, that's silly, you have to kiss a lot of frogs remember? give him a chance if YOU like him, not for a free meal.
22. well i a free meal is a free meal but morals should come first. put yourself in his posistion if u respected a girl wud u b sh*t faced drunk b4 you guys went on a date? NO so its no exception for him and he went out with the other girl.....forget the free meal forget him...tell him its okay....you can buy ur own dinner.
23. Do you like being second fiddle? Foul ups: 1)Why are you inside his apartment on first date, is that proper etiquette? 2)On first date, he's got you in his apartment and he's wasted and chats about another woman who he wants. That's a big insult! 3)He dated the other woman before calling you to apologize; what does that make you? Last pickings? Something better than nothing? 4)It took him 2 weeks to pick up the phone and apologize for his bad behavior. What does he think you are? A Second Fiddle?If you're not desperate then move on, forget that loser!
24. Let him take you out but keep your expectations high. Don't expect anything else but him being excited to see you and that his entire focus is on YOU. If he can't do that, don't think you are second best, it's just not right for you. You deserve to be treated like a PRINCESS
25. Oh, girl!! No way.. Your Worth more than that!!! If a guy drinks on a first date!!??? that's like say Alcohol is more important to me than you are! Believe me ... anything "bad" you see wrong with someone is only amplified as you get to know them... Most people are at their VERY BEST on a 1st date... If that was his first impression I shutter to think what he will be like in a few months if you guys were to start dating.... RUN AWAY FAST!! As for you being his 2nd choice.. I'd say it looks as though that is the case... (not a fun thing to abmit) Personally I always REFUSED to go out with someone as their 2nd choice... Example... My sister (2 year older than me) & I were BEST friends.. ALL the guys were CRAZY about her... anything we were involved in.. if there was a guy there he'd develop a crush & be "IN LOVE" and asking her out by night's end... that's just what she was known for... the guys LOVED her... I on the onther hand got a normal amount of male attention.. but not much.. if she was persent.. than I didnt exsist... This never caused us probs becasue I didnt really care :-) But every now and again a guy would give up no ever winning her affections and "come after me" She & I look similar.. she is just a LOT thinner & more "glamourous" looking. I would shoot them down right away... my sis would be like OH GO OUT with him he is SO nice! And I'd be like NO I refuse to be 2nd pick. Some people may say this is an overness of "self worth" but I wanted to feel taht I was wanted for me not because the guy couldnt have someone he really wanted. So I waited for the guy that picked me adn now I'm married to the most wonderful guy ever.. and guess what? he hung out with my sister first and wasnt smitten with her?!!! a first I was sure!! :) My sis on the other hand (I lvoe her to death!!) went out with the "cool guy" ... who thinks he can do anything and still have the girl... she put up wth all his stuff.. she got preg.. they are now married and he is so MEAN to her! Always putting her down adn wont even let her see the family... he moved her a state away... So if you hold onto your self-worth.. no matter how much other peeps say things to the contrary.. you are worth someone who love and cherishs you in a relationship.. you'll get what your looking for :-) Dont give up he's out there :-)... I just dont think this guys is him.
26. "Cutie- Pie" Was Right!!!
27. Prove to him that you are a better than that other girl and that you should have been his first choice.
28. Go out to dinner with him if you only want to get back at him. Like you said, it would be a free meal. but I'll bet you he goes where HE wants to go and you might not even like the food, so who cares about a free dinner if you don't like the food?? AND.. beware...he could pull another fast one on you! Me, personally, i wouldn't set myself up again with this guy. You could always say yes, tell him you'll "MEET HIM THERE" AND STAND HIM UP. When he approaches you at work in the hall or something just say, I tried to call you I left you a message didn't you get it? He may say no! What did you say? Tell him..."Loose My Number". and walk away.
29. Ya id go n get the free meal. Order expensive thigs, lotsa drinks. Screw him!
30. yes i would probably go and pick the most expensive date all day and then finish with a movie and the most expensive restaurant he has probably never even been to then if he calls good, if he doesn't call good, either way so what!!!!! he sounds like a jerk.