please help....need advice from a guy and girls point of view?

I am seventeen and I am dating a guy That I like he is also seventeen but he don’t have things going for his self and he smokes weed But he is really sweet and treats me right. Then my first love first every thing has moved Back to town. He says he wants back me back his life, but while he was gone he hurt me by choosing not to get ahold of me. He chose to live his free life and be with the girls up where he was. I feel its not fair for him to all of a sudden come back into my life when he wasn’t there when I needed him. But I do miss him and I believe I still Have strong feelings for him when i first saw him again all my feelings for him just came back. But im dating a new guy that I really like its hard for me. What do I do?

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1. i don't think i would date either of them. the one hurt you and the one your with now smokes weed, WEED!!!!! he may have not already, but he can become violent. and he may treat you right but i mean he could go to jail and then what you gonna do. then you have no one, so try to find someone you like, who don't smoke weed, who will treat you right, and who won't hurt you.
2. In this case all you can do is go with your gut. You are right it was wrong of him to just leave and come back and act like nothing but it is up to you to decide what to do. You are the one who knows what you feel ... take a little bit of time ... think it through and trust your instincts. I may turn out good or bad but either way ... it will be a lesson learned!
3. brandon and marvin says u should replace both of em w/them b/c they r irreplacible
4. I'm sorry to say but I dont think you should date either one of them. The first guy who left you and stuff does not deserve you if he left you and the other guy who smokes weed and shit is no good for you because weed leeds to meth and other drugs. Its best that you move one and find someone better for you
5. First you have to remember why you and that other guy broke up. Just because he rolls back in town doesn't mean that he has to take ownership of you. Yeah he wants you back but has he earned the right to have you back? Has he earned the right to even be in your presants? Does he respect you, and or your friendship? Your in a tuff situation. The guy your with does he treat you better then the guy your were with. Just because he smokes weed doesn't make him a bad person. How long have you been going out withe this guy that your with now? How many memories do you have with him? I understand that the other guy was your first everything, but what you have to find is... is this guy worth getting hurt all over again? It is a proven fact that we never forget our first love, the one we had sex with first. The thing that everyone has to make is the decission of to be with this guy again or not. You might want to try and be friends with him first, unless you know in your mind if you were in a room alone with him.... would anything happen with you two? If the answer is yes, why go an break the heart of the guy your currently with?knowing that you want more out of the friendship that you have with another guy. These are things that everyone called mistakes because they think that they love the one that once loved them. They break up with the guy that they were with, and come to find out, it was a mistake. Do you know for a fact that the guy that you were with doesn't have some kind of STD? I would ask him to go and get tested, if he goes and does that and showes you the test results then he really loves you, but if he doesn't he just wanted to get in your pants one more time, before he moves on to the next girl. Take sometime and think about what you want, and where your going to go in life. Is this something you want to be with? Or is it still just a crush that you still have on him. I would seriously stay friends with this other guy for a while before you go and break up something that you might regret. Good luck and God Bless you and your family