Anyone with experience please feel free to give advice..?

My ex boyfriend and I recently broke up, the day that we ended our relationship he went out to dinner with his ex, and i recently found out that he had proposed to his 2 past girlfriends, and yes, we were engaged too. I also saw him the day after out to lunch with a girl (coincidentally) that "he just met" I'm not your typical girl and don't often date, in many aspects I'm very mature for my age (i'm 21). This is my first serious relationship and I put everything into it and I'm still very upset, I know people keep saying to just get up and move on, but I'm finding it hard, any advice would be greatly appreciated.. thank you :)

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1. Your ex has some problems. You are normal and healthy and he's the problem. He needs to get help, he sounds like he;s addicted to women and by engaging to everyone he meets, he is making a closer bond but finds something isn't right and moves to the next. Not very stable. There is nothing wrong with you, you have to understand, it just means that you have not met the right man yet. Just don't give up too easily and you don't have to "let go" of it and move on, just take as a hard lesson learnt on what kind of guy NOT to date...
2. Because you are still young..It will take you much longer to get over it...Just don't became bitter. In many instances, your heart will shut down for anyone that comes by...and you might loose your chance to love again. Take it from me. The pain will go away...Use your friends, family and co workers to get back into your routine. Go out and date. Love will find you again. I know guys are bastards, but do not judge the entire specie for one bad specimen I wish you well
3. Take up a violent sport. Loose some of that aggression you are feeling. It doesn't have to be physically violent could be something like archery which is just inately violent.
4. what you're seeing from this guy since you have broken up has just shown you that you made the right choice. Sometimes we can put everything that we have into something and it is just not meant to be. This guy from his track record either cannot live without a women in his life, or he just likes the title of "engaged". But my guess is that he is incredibly insecure with himself and that he needs to be married or engaged to, in his mind, "become somebody" You are so much stronger than him. Your best bet is to take your time and work on other things that are important to you in your life and you will get stronger gradually, pick up with a new person when YOU are ready and not a moment before. Don't worry about what your friends are saying, because the most important person here is you. Take your time and try not to think of what "could have been". Think about the future and what "can be" You'll make it.
5. Well even after a month or a few weeks, its amazing how attached you can become to someone. And then its like you regret that things didn't work out if they don't. But sweetheart, everything happens for a reason. I'm sure there are a thousand other guys out there for you. As upsetting as it is, obviously, hes not a very committed person if hes proposed to his past 2 girlfriends. Hence the word PAST. Engagement is a big thing, and should be serious...but obviously whats his point in proposing to someone if he can't maintain the relationship?? Do you really want to set yourself up for that pain all over again?? Try going out for a night with your friends. Depending on where you go, you may even find someone else for you :]. I really woudln't bend yourself out of shape over this guy.
6. I hate to be the bearer of bad news...but that guy is no good, sweetie. He seems like the type of guy that likes to get girls to fall for him, then he leaves them. Also seems as if he cant make up his mind. hard to say because i dont know you both but im sure you can do ALOT better than that. He's a loser and always will be and you dont need someone like that bringing you down. its his loss and he will realize it, and if not then it wasnt meant to be. I've had my share of guys like that, so trust me. I know its going to be very hard..but its better to try and move on, then to stay with someone that likes to play the field and that you know will hurt you badly. You should cut all ties with him. You will thank yourself later.
7. You won't be able just to move on from this relationship until you are ready!! And if by moving on, people mean that you should date other people, I wouldn't - until you are happy to!! I rushed into a few relationships in my time, and I think sometimes they can slightly hurt you more than they normally should. Because you are used to having soemone around, its easy to want and need to meet someone. I don't want to sound patronising either - you should see the other post i have put on - its rubbish!! :-) But when you want something, its hard to zone out of it, until you are ready. But basically (and i will try and take my own advice), things happen for a reason, we meet people in our lives for a reason, and all this builds us up to be better, wiser and when the right person comes along, we will know without doubt that they are the "one". While you have this time to yourself, look at things that you can learn/do for yourself, things that you will enjoy and benefit from. You never know you might have a different perspective about things in a few months time, and will no doubt meet new people and friends along the way. This will be good fun - so enjoy!! :-)