What advice do men have for women when it comes to dating?

I'm tired of getting hurt. I want to have fun and be happy, but I'm told I "expect too much" from the guys I date. All I want is an exclusive relationship. I guess I'm not really attracted to the dating *game* as its so called. But I'll play it if I have to, if I can find one guy that makes me happy for a while. I'm not looking for a marriage partner, as I am only 21 and have a whole life ahead of me. It just seems like whenever I get close to someone, they freak out and tell me they don't want (or "arent ready") for an "exclusive relationship." The idea of dating more than one person at a time does not appeal to me, simply because I dont want to be played. I'd really like some men to give me some advice. Whats your take on dating in general, and am I worrying too much?

Public Comments

1. soundns like youre the kind of person that wants to be with their partner during alot of your free time..ie attached. just gotta find a guy that is the same. enjoys being around you and always wants to be around you.
2. ahh at 21 no guy want to be in one relationship and who can blame them? so why would you expect that from a young guy? geez he got hormones a raging he see nothing but potential ( as in sex ) and will take full advantage of that he knows there are plenty that will give it up for him and he want to experience as much sex BEFORE he "settles" ( and that a bad but correct term ) down for a wife. mean while sex is a recreational sport, as he gets his young life in order, why make commitments with someone who will interfere with life goals and dreams, as a commited relationship is direct conflict with career aspirations, as commitment = too much time needing to be spent trying to make a girl happy
3. Commited relationship as in text a million times a day phone calls everytime you see the phone at 21 who what guy really wants that...Some girls expect to much and ae unrealistic about some relationships.
4. it sounds like you should just have good guy friends. You want a guy to be totally into you, and only you, but you don't want to get married. You want to date for the heck of it, but just for a longer period of time. It's the same thing, and guys dont' want to get hurt either.
5. You are in the middle of the classic dating dilemma. Girls want commitment, marriage, and babies. Boys want to screw, eat steak, and watch sports on TV. It really is amazing that the society continues to regenerate itself. What is a girl to do? Trickery, my dear. Step 1, you pretend to want the same things the boy wants. The boy gets lots of sex, steak, and sports on TV. Also plenty of ego strokes. He likes this. Step 2, he asks you to marry him. Step 3, then you change the signals. This is called the training period. Lots of luck. If you have a son, just remember this, it's his mother's fault. If she had taught him what a man is good for, you wouldn't be having all of these problems. So now it's your turn to do the next girl down the line a favor. Will you?
6. when it comes to dating in general, we like a woman who will give us our space - nothing is a bigger turn off than a woman who tries to "take over" your life, wants to do EVERYTHING with you (work out, errands, etc) - give a man his space and take what he's giving you - if you want to spend more time with him let him know but don't do it in stalker psycho kinda way
7. If u got chance to date with me, then u will know what is the meaning of 'good guy'...