I need advice on dating older women....will it work out in the long run?

I am 24, college grad, living on my own, finally got my life and finances in order and a decent job. I have been seeing this older women, 42...she is divorced, no kids, is absolutely GORGEOUS and is very mature and fun to be around. She is working as well, so I know she doesn't want my money. We have a very healthy relationship, she's not too needy, we have our alone time and make time for each other.....I have never been in such a great relationship in my life. My friends think it is great. My family likes her but think I need to be with someone more my age. And her family completely adores me! I am happy and yet confused at the same time, because I feel great, but am wondering if its really healthy or if she is just using me to feel young and wanted......

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1. she just wants sex and to feel young. Thats why older women date younger men. It wont work in the long run because shes already done things you might want to do ie marriage. Shes not thinking long run , your just her toy boy
2. Dude just do it. Older women are better then most women in their 20's anyways.
3. Eventually you will want a new younger girl. She will get old and wrinkled soon and you will be tempted by younger girls.
4. If everything is going smoothly so far and everybody accepts her, then why not be with her? You claim you're happy with her, so nothing should really matter, but if you have "second doubts" then I would look closely at yourself than her age, and question if you really love her and that you are not lusting over her. Overall, think in the long run...
5. Keep in mind, she could be your mom ;) But seriously, age is a number. If you get along well, you are both working, and are extremely happy and comfortable where you are, why not? If it doesn't work, you can say you tried it. If she is gorgeous, then chances are she's there because she feels something for you. If she wanted to feel young I'm sure she could date anyone, but chose you. See where it leads, if you are both on the same page intellectually then it should work out fine. A lot of times, older people can be a problem because of the generation gap and the fact that they are into different things, had different experiences, etc. She seems to make you happy, don't doubt what you have, just let it be what it is.
6. You have already stated that you have a healthy relationship. If she was using you to feel young, she would be very superficial and not the caring, wonderful person you have portrayed. Accept what you two have because finding this happiness is very rare indeed. And remember this: age is a matter of mind - if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
7. No, I don't think she is using you. I think she really likes you. And as long as you two are happy that's all that matters. She's introduced you to her family, that says a lot. Thankfully she doesn't have kids or you might never had the chance to meet her. So just enjoy it and let all those bystanders to your lives do just that. Stand by and watch me be happy Good Luck lb
8. Hey honey,i'm a 43yr. old female and my man is only 31.We have an awesome relationship.In any relationship you have all the same problems.It doesn't matter how old you are as long as you both are happy and grow together,it can be the best thing ever to happen in your life,Tomorrow eric and myself will be together for 13yrs. and it's still great,and just think,the sex is just gonna get better.I'm sure you will have no regrets.
9. It will work if you are the kind of person that likes to be bossed or if you need someone who treats you like yr mom. Now matter how good you feel toghether, she is 42 and has no kids. Women need to protect someone, it's in their nature. But, you can enjoy it while it lasts, because if something goes wrong, you can alwyas leave.
10. if you feel like you need to be with someone your own age than there is a problem you do not have a healthy relationship and you are lying to her so either be happy with her or end it she has been married befor and im sure SHE knows what she wants or doesnt want it sounds like you are toying with her emotions and thats not fair to her shame on you i bet if she read this she would dump your ass for not being honest with her sounds like your using her
11. Before you get deeply involved you have to wonder about your future. 1) Do you want kids? 2) Do you plan to get married? She might be excellent but you need to understand what you are looking for in a relationship. If it is just a little fun then go ahead and keep dating. If you really want to get married then you need to talk with her about the future. If you REALLY want to have biological child this might not be the relationship for you. Believe me, I worked in a old age home and some of this people were crying because they did not have children when they were young. Now that they are in a old age home ?they have no children visiting and no grandchild. When I was your age a guy the same age as you girlfriend was in my life. He was great fun and a wonderful soul. My friends and co-workers LOVED him. I understood ( after soul searching) that I wanted different things at this stage of my life. I think a part of him liked me for my youth and not having baggage. So I understand how you feel about being used. I am now married 6 years, and have a 3 yr old daughter with the love of my life ( 1 yr older then me). The other guy is now living with a lady his own age and travelling on vacation. We are both happy and neither of us has regrets but it did hurt when I had to break the news. Hopes this helps with your decision. Good Luck!
12. u should consider these situation carefully. sometimes it works in the long run and sometimes not. it depends on both of you
13. she doesn't need you in her life...she wants you there. i doubt that she wants to be married, or have kids, or wants your money. have fun for now and enjoy your time with her. when you are looking to settle down, you should be truthful with her that you are looking to start a family, etc.