In search of dating advice from the women...?

I'm 33 and I have been single for almost 7 years - since separating from my ex-wife. And it's been over 3 years since my last date. I am somewhat shy about meeting new people to begin with and after so little activity in so many years I'm in even worse shape. The main problem I have now is I live in a relatively small community with very little in the way of a night life. In fact, it seems there is very little in the way of a public social scene period. I've tried some of the on-line personals sites but there are only a small handful of listings - like less than 10 - in reasonably close proximity (less than 30-45 minutes). I do know there are plenty of women in the community - even presumably single women - because I see them at work all the time. I just don't know where to find them away from work. I could really use a female's perspective on how I can at least improve my chances of meeting someone. One thing I should add is that I moved to this community for work about 18 months ago and I don't really know anyone outside of work (and I mainly work with teenagers). This is a community where most locals have grown up together since a very young age so it can be difficult to get in with the groups.

Public Comments

1. just get out there & do it...
2. Take some classes. You might meet some nice women who enjoy similar interests.
3. try to go o some night clubs and find someone.
4. I would place a very respectable, direct ad in the local paper's classified section. No joke! Explain that you are looking for someone to sit on the couch with and eat popcorn, take to the show and laugh until your stomachs ache, someone who wants to be treated like a lady by a gentleman. You could even include that the good nite kiss on the cheek is optional. See where I'm going with this? There are probably several other singles in your small community that are going through the exact same thing as you are. Put yourself out there. Do something harmless yet fun! Place that ad. You can let me know later how many responses you get. Hopefully, we can't count that high! Press on!
5. Check around. There is no shortage of single women, believe me. Grocery stores, shopping, any place really. Women are always looking for guys too, you know. Watch their body language and facial expressions. You'll be surprised what you can learn that way. That's what I look for with guys anyway.:)
6. Does your community have sporting activities like softball or volleyball that you could be involved in? I met my husband at a baseball tournament. Do you have a dog? A cute dog will make a woman stop every time. Do your friends know of anyone that's available. The set up isn't such a bad thing. Depending on what kind of woman you want to meet the library can be an interesting resource...excuse the pun. Good luck to you and I hope this helps.
7. First of all, you need to have confidence because that is what women like. Second, you must have good looks or at least dress to impress and lastly, A great personality. Go out with friends or co-workers and have them help you out with hooking you up with blind dates.
8. have u tried a dating agency ?
9. Ask one of those single women out to dinner, and maybe cook for her ( if you can) Be brave, you can do it. Think of something other than the same dinner and movie thing it is so cliche. Find something where you can get to know each other. For example a zoo, floral gardens, anywhere where you can talk. Good luck to you.