Can someone provide me with information on handleing this?

My mother has been dating this man for about five years now. After the first few years, of the relationship, her boyfriend had become vulgar, inconciderate, and abusive. He would start out with cursing, which lead to yelling. He then began to throw objects with force during arguing with her. This past weekend, he threatned to be physically violent. My mother is a strong women and has had enough. There is children envolved, my sister - 12, my other sister (she is my mother and her boyfriend's child) - 3 and my self. She wants him to move out, but he refuses to leave and finds no reason why she wants him to do so. If anyone can give me so advice on how to help my mother through this and to get him out, please feel free to help!

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1. Talk with your mom first and see what she wants to do. Then make your plans!! First, start with the police. If he is being or threatening to be abusive, call the police and have him taken out. Then call Social Services for protection and somewhere to go if you need to. There is going to be a battle if she has children with this man, but in the end, it is HER decision, not yours. So sit down with her and talk to her about what you can do.
2. well...i would take it to the police and court. because if she tells him to leave then he should. but it depends on what he owns and what she owns. but she sounds really strong and i think she will be able to survive this good. good luck.
3. ALL SHE NEED,S TO DO IS CALL THE POLICE AND HAVE HIM REMOVED AND GO DOWN GET A RESTRAINING ORDER.
4. check out the movie Sling Blade with Billy Bob Thornton, it is a terrific movie and may give you some inspiration.
5. well you could have your mom tell him to either move out or she will take llegal action & make sure he can't get the kid..
6. CALL THE COPS IF HE BECOMES VIOLENT, THEY WILL MAKE HIM LEAVE. other then that, there's not really much you or her can do. good luck
7. If the bf threatened physical violence, your mom can get a restraining order. Do they live in an apt or house? Do they rent or own? Under whose name? Your mom should kick him out or move out with the kids. She should not put up with this bozo any longer.
8. First of all, this is indeed an unhealthy relationship and not good for any of you who have to witness such violence and discord. You need to let you mom know that there are agencies out there that she can call and the will provide a safe have for her and you children. They will help you get back on your feet and also help to re-locate you all if needed. I pray she calls someplace soon and stay away from that mad-man. She can go to a hospital anywhere and they have social workers she can talk to that will assist her. Peace!
9. Being abusive is a crime,tell the police.She has to do what she has to do for her kids, they cant grow up around that.Theres someone out there who's gonna treat her better.
10. WELL TRY TALKING WITH YOUR MOTHER ABOUT IT AND SEE HOW SHE FILLS,SOME TIMES PARENTS DO NT LIKE TALKING TO THERE KIDS ABOUT THERE PROBLEMS BUT IF SHE SEE,S UR CONCERNED THAT MIGHT MAKE HER THINK HARDER ABOUT GETTING OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP.