need some men and women advice?
i have liked someone for quite some time now, and i thought i was liked back...but just found out that he is going out with a close friend of mine.... before this my friend (the one that is dating the guy) was always encouraging me to make a move or give him a hint that i liked his as she keps saying she is not interestied in him so i was free to do what i wanted... yesterday i found out that they r planning their engagement party... i am not hurt but very anoyed... what shall i do with the friendship i have with them? they've been dating for 3-4 months without anyone knowing and only 5 months ago she kept telling me that she looked at him as a brother truthfully i have prayed for them to have many blessings in their life but it feels strange to be anywhere around them
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- Two choices .. hold your head up and get her a great gift from her bridal registry ( people don't always expect to fall in love ), or avoid them both.
- Forget about friendship it does not sound like you had one! Thats so out of order.Your better off with out them!!
- wow! dont be there friends anymore...
- what a stinker. distance yourself from both of them
- So she was trying to make you jellous. Kind of rude and crock way to do it even. I would forget them and move on. Life is complicated enaugh without that kind of "friends".
- I would be hurt. Are they close friends? That would make it worse. But just wondering how they are planning an engagement and you are just finding out about it now. It sounds like you aren't in the loop and maybe you should just give them both space for your own wellbeing. Find some new friends to hang with for a while and maybe a new love interest.
- huh !! ur friend's a lunatic she hates u.
- you have every right to be annoyed. She lied to your face then stomped on it. She had no right to encourge you to make a move if she was planning a marrige with. And if you want to be hurt you've got the right. She doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. i would only be friends with them, not best friends. Or even not friends at all.
- just make them miserable, by having your head up high
- it is obvious that he has made his choice. if he really liked you he would have went out with you and not with your friend, and he also wouldnt have waited for you to make the first move as im sure your friend didnt make the first move to be with him. if anyone is at fault her it is your friend. first of all she wasnt honest with her feelings. she is a hypocrit because she said she didnt like him and now they are planning their engagement party. now how does that make sense. but you shouldnt have any hard feeling towards anyone. let them go on with their lives, just reconsider your friendship.
- How close did you actually think this friend of yours was? Keep your friends close and enemies closer is what this "friend" of yours was thinking. Dump both of them as friends immediately!
- First of all,the cow was setting you up to get your feelings torn down.She is not what I would call afriend.Some girls do that.they are going with guys secretly but they encourage others to seek him.It makes them feel sexier when the guy turns the other girl down.But in some cases,they do that to see if the guy would actually try and cheat.I even found girls that liked the idea of the friends sleeping with a guy and not knowing that she is sharing him with her.thats nasty to have your friend discuss sex with the guy when you are already sneeking with him,
- If you can, let it go. Maybe your friend didn't like the guy at the time she told you so. Maybe it's something that just happened and was not done to hurt you. If she is a good friend, than just be happy for them and move on. If you never actually dated the guy, it doesn't seem worth ruining the friendship over. You will probably just come across as being jealous of their happiness. He obviously wasn't the right guy for you, anyway. Someday, when you find your soul mate, you will be glad it wasn't.
- be super cool and sweet special the kind person you are and wish them the best hope they will be truly happy make your own moves don't trust so much no one but your pillow theres plenty of fish on the sea
- forget it. It seems to me that your "friend" was leading you up the garden path, and in all probability laughing at you behind your back with her fiancee! Who needs enemies when you have friends like her? Trust me move on, chalk it down to experience and organise a wicked night out for yourself on the night of their engagement party. Chances are you'll meet a nice guy and in no time you'll be planning you own engagement party!
- i guess u just get on with your life be happy for them love makes u blind so maybe they didnt know what they were doing specially when she was encouraging u to make a move forgive and forget :)
- love is a strange thing and ppl can not help if they fall in love. mind she sould have told you! but do not break up about it
